Grey Chatter: The Dreaded "C" Word

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To commit or not to commit? That's the question of the hour, the subject of last Thursday's "Let the Angels Commit," and the subject of our SeattleGirl's weekly Grey Chatter. Here's what the Insider's West Coast correspondent thought of the most recent Grey's Anatomy drama...


The title of this episode has to do with commitment. But it seems like it’s more about avoiding commitment than actual commitment. Except in the case of Cristina and Burke, of course. It’s fairly obvious from the way the episode ended -- a light bulb going off above Bailey’s head as she watched Cristina write on the OR board -- that things are going to get very bad very quickly for Burktina.

Burktina: Over the Edge
However, you do have to admire Cristina’s resolve.

She loves and worships Burke, for both personal and professional reasons. Whether she’s out to further her career or she’s just trying to protect her boyfriend, she’s putting it all on the line and proving herself to Burke. There’s a rumor going around of a wedding in the near future, and as of Thursday night’s show, it looks like Burke and Cristina could be in the running.

Then there’s George and Callie.

It’s actually kind of painful, all the flip-flopping going on in George’s mind. He likes Callie, but doesn’t love her. He gets jealous when he thinks she’s sleeping with someone else. She dumps George and now he wants her back. Is she a safety net for him? Does he want the icing but not the cake?

It doesn’t work that way for Callie, and she’s a strong woman for figuring that out. She loves him still, so much so that she’s regretting the whole Mark Sloan fiasco and thinking about telling George about it. And she sort of gets his whole "being the pig" speech. But she’s not looking for metaphors. She’s looking for the “C” word. And he’s not sure he’ll ever be ready to give that to her. So she’s smart for standing her ground, difficult as it may be.

Izzie becomes the heroine of this episode, painfully breaking her way back into her routine at the hospital. She stands her ground in the case with the crazy hand burning girl, because she understands a little bit of her craziness. She’s afraid of failure. Of having people be disappointed in her.

Izzie: Back in Effect

Izzie gets that because Izzie feels the same way. She’s torn inside, though, because even though she wants to earn back Bailey’s and the other interns’ respect, she’s not even really sure she’s forgiven herself yet for what has happened. It seems like it’s going to be a long process to get our Izzie back the way she was. And maybe she’ll never be quite the same.

Another intern wobbling on the fence of indecision this episode was Alex. He wanted a career in plastics – he wanted to be Mark Sloan. But it didn’t click. While Alex wanted the image that comes with being a Mark Sloan, his heart couldn’t get in the game. He couldn’t stop thinking about those twins. And the softer, more genuine side of Alex is one that we’re quite ready to get to know.

Bailey seems sort of lost throughout the episode, unsure of where she stands in the other doctors’ eyes, especially when she finds her name erased from Dr. Burke’s surgery. Without her dauntless perspective and snarky voice, Miranda doesn’t seem like herself. She’s not ready to deal with Izzie being back, and she’s certainly not ready to stand up for herself against Burke, the Chief, or the other doctors that are talking behind her back. She’s lost some of her usual grouchy charm and this other, insecure version of Dr. Bailey is hard to get used to.

But the real stars of the non-commitment theme are Derek and Meredith. First taken aback by Derek’s sister, Meredith isn’t sure whether she should give Derek some space or force her way into his life. We’ve been waiting so long to see them together that maybe if it had happened this episode, it might have been too fast. She only just dumped Finn, and Derek is clearly not yet over Addison, no matter what he may say.

Addison hurt him deeply when she confessed the truth about her and Mark’s relationship. She didn’t really break things off with Mark only because of her love for Derek – she left Mark because he cheated on her. And apparently, Dr. Montgomery doesn’t like being alone.

But for the first time in quite a long time, Addison, Derek and Meredith are each alone. They’re each trying to gain some perspective and some space. They need to find out who they are without being defined by a relationship, or by another person. Derek tries to convey this to Meredith when they meet on the stairwell, and in her own way, she understands.

While it’s painful to see, we know it will make for some interesting twists and turns in the episodes to come.

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Burke and Cristina should be the couple to marry. They had been through so much together, and have come so far. Burke has proven over and over again how much he loves Cristina and accepts her for who she is: challenging, competitive, guarded, and a slob. And Cristina is proving just how much she loves Burke by showing that she is committed to him and would do anything to protect him. If we can't see them wed this season, hopefully we can get at least a I Love You from Cristina and an engagement. Great picture! I love watching them do surgeries together.


Personally I think they all need to get their act together before any of them consider marriage. I would like to see a relationship of some kind with Addison and Alex. I think it would be interesting.


I really hope you are wrong about the Chief and Adele, but you sure could be right. He is certainly hinting that he isn't as happy as he thought he would be with just the hospital for company. I would so love for it to be Burke and Cristina with Izzie and Meredith as bridesmaids. I wonder who would be the best man? Other than the guy with the female part we have never really met any of Burke's friends. He may be closer to the Chief than any of the other guys. Cristina would want to elope, once Burke actually talked her into getting married, which will take a lot of doing. But the spiritual side of him would hold out for the whole church thing, I think. Since they are Jewish and Christian it could be a really interesting wedding. It would be fun to see Mr. and Mrs. Rubinstein and Mr. and Mrs. Burke interact. Ah, I know, it will be Richard and Adele, and I am just day dreaming.


you've just reaffirmed what i've been trying to say all this time.
i know that eventually, mer & der will be together, but i do hope that before he's ready to make that commitment with her, he'll make amends with the two people in his life that knows him and is in a way, his [seattle] family -- addison & mark. i know that many diehard grey's fans don't give these two enough credit or any sympathy for that matter, but the thing that ppl tend to forget that these characters are indeed "flawed". . . i love this softer side of alex -- he gives a crap and it shows a whole lot more. the ham & eggs analogy was str8-up hilarious, esp. when george try to convey it so eloquently to callie. . .but i'm so glad that at the end, she didn't give in to his plea. i have a hunch that the wedding may be the chief & adele renewing their vows. . . as much as i want to believe it's burktina, i think because the secret their hiding from the rest of the sgh staff, that it'll take a toll on their relationship.


With the marriage idea maybe it will be the chief re-newing his vowels to his wife. I think everyone wants it to be one of the main "young" couples, but maybe it is something less predictable.


Totally agree about Der/Mer gettting it together soon. They're on the right track--a little more patience and we should have a big payoff. At least I hope so! As much as I tune in for those two, I have to say the characters I love to watch are Addison and Alex. Separately or together, those two are by far the most interesting to watch developing. The Cristina/Burke thing is about to come to a head and it should be great! Can't wait to see the old Bailey back again!


By the way, I loved the picture of Cristina and Burke, above, in the operating room where they are the most comfortable with each other, well, there and in his bed. (smiling)


Very cool overview of Let the Angels Commit. I think you are dead on about most of what you write, or at least I hope you are about somethings. I have my fingers crossed that the wedding in the near future will be Burke and Cristina's. They are so together and I really hope they stay that way. Bailey finding out may be just the push they need because she will confront Cristina and Burke, if he is still the man of honesty and integrity, will have to admit what is going on to save her. I don't think George will ever commit to Calli. She is his transition girl while he gets over Meredith and meets his true love. If it takes him this long to decide, I don't think she is the one. Calli deserves better and George deserves someone he really loves. I loved the Izzie and the Alex story lines this past week. It's great to see Izzie back in her scrubs and I love this softer side of Alex. Could there be an Addie and Alex story line in the future? I love him with Izzie, but Addison has a way of getting in between the people we love to see together. I think Meredith has commited to Derek. He needs time to mourn his marriage, but I don't think he wants it back. It is just real that divorce hurts even when it is the right decision. I think Derek commited to Meredith when he told Addison that Meredith was not a fling, that he fell in love with her. They are still stuck back in the episode about timing. It will happen, it is just a matter of time.


I love what you wrote and I agree with it all especially the part about Derek not being over Addison, no matter what he may say. I've been trying to tell my friends that and they keep saying it's over but it ain't over till it's over. I am looking foward to your thoughts on the next epsiode.


Grey's Anatomy Quotes

Did you say it? 'I love you. I don't ever want to live without you. You changed my life.' Did you say it? Make a plan. Set a goal. Work toward it, but every now and then, look around; Drink it in 'cause this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow."

Meredith (closing voiceover)

Burke was- He took something from me. He took little pieces of me, little pieces over time, so small I didn't even notice, you know? He wanted me to be something I wasn't, and I made myself into what he wanted. One day I was me Cristina Yang, and then suddenly I was lying for him, and jeopardizing my career, and agreeing to be married and wearing a ring, and being a bride. Until I was standing there in a wedding dress with no eyebrows, and I wasn't Cristina Yang anymore. And even then, I would've married him. I would have. I lost myself for a long time. And now that I'm finally me again, I can't. I love you. I love you more than I loved Burke. I love you. And that scares the crap out of me because when you asked me to ignore Teddy's page, you took a piece of me, and I let you. And that will never happen again.