Shonda Rhimes Discusses Season 3 Finale

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Season 3 of Grey's Anatomy began with Meredith helping an emotionally wrecked Izzie out of her prom dress and ended last night with Meredith helping a bawling Cristina out of her wedding gown.

Shonda Rhimes, as she puts it, likes symmetry.

Below are excerpts from her blog, in which she discusses the events of last night's finale, "Didn't We Almost Have it All," and what's in store for us in the fall when Grey's Anatomy returns for Season 4, now that she's "burned everything to the ground" in the third campaign ...


Shonda Rhimes Discusses Season 3 Finale

This season was very important to me. It wasn't as light as Season 2 and for good reason. Our characters were in a darker place. I needed to put Meredith's mother to rest, Izzie's grief to rest, and the race for Chief to rest. George needed to grow up on a monumental level and then come full circle to where he was when we first met him in the pilot.

Meredith had to finally try to face the fact that she's damaged when it comes to relationships. I wanted to put Bailey on a path of questioning her standing as The Chosen One. Both Burke and Derek needed to hit a relationship wall, each in their own ways. Then there's Cristina.

Oh, the Cristina of it all.

What Season 3 is about most of all - for all of our women - is the idea of "having it all" is a myth. And that was true for Cristina more than anyone. Slowly, over the course of the season, we've watched as hard-nosed Yang sliced off little pieces of herself to accommodate Burke.

From helping Burke hide his tremor to Colin Marlowe telling her she's not the woman he knew to prepping for the wedding, she slowly morphs from kickass surgeon-girl into a woman we don't quite recognize in that wedding dress with penciled eyebrows.

I wanted you to have the feeling in the finale that she's become this painted doll - beautiful, everyone's fantasy bride, but a painted doll all the same. No longer our Cristina Yang. There's that wonderful moment where she begs Bailey to let her cut because a part of her knows she's becoming someone she doesn't recognize.

And then, just as she's lost almost all of herself standing there in that gown ready to walk down the aisle, Burke is telling her that he can't marry her. Because even Burke realizes that this Cristina is not his Cristina. It's devastating.

I hope you noticed that in the beginning of the episode Cristina talks about a heart as a purely anatomical thing ("it pumps blood") and then Burke's vows are all about the heart as an emotional thing ("I promise to lay my heart in the palm of your hands") and it's so sad to realize that they have completely opposing views of the world.

I feel for Burke and you should too because he knows that, in a way, by leading, pushing, cajoling her down this path to being together, he's done this to her - he's changed her. That the only way to save her from disappearing completely is to set her free.

And then in that wonderfully painful moment (how much do we love Sandra Oh and her incredible talent?) in the apartment, Cristina turns to Meredith and says "He's gone. I'm free. Damn it."

And it's so nuanced and layered and so tragic because she's relieved and terrified and heartbroken and suffocated all at once. Watching her journey back from this is going to be amazing next season.

George and Izzie and Callie: you all have your opinions, very strong opinions, on how you feel about this love triangle. I'm glad â€" strong opinions mean you care what happens.

In the finale, Izzie's declaring herself and Callie's fighting for her rightful territory. That moment when Callie casually lets Izzie know that she's not only been named Izzie's boss but that she and George are trying to have a baby is very interesting.

Callie's saying "don't mess with me" in the only way she knows how. About the baby thing - for the record, I am very strongly against anyone trying to have a baby to save a relationship. It's crazy because it never works and I highly recommend you don't do it.

Plus it goes against every feminist bone in my body. But it is also human to delude yourself into believing that you're not having a baby to save your relationship, that instead having a baby is a way of taking your relationship to the next level.

And Callie gives that great speech about her hormones and her body.

I've been there and I know that it is real, this sudden baby rush that happens and, if you are firmly into your career, it freaks you out. Callie's just being as honest as she knows how to be with George.

Because she can't bring up Izzie again - not when the last time she brought it up, George called Izzie a supermodel thereby suggesting that Callie was, well…not.

Continue reading the rest of Shonda's blog here ...

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hey guys, I'M FROM GERMANY and at first i really want to know, if there actually starts a season 4?? And I agree with all the others, I love Meredith and Derek - TOGETHER, and I hope they will be ok, because they are the best couple, ever! Also Christina and Burke.. But If Meredith and Derek break up and then anytime they are together again, maybe the show lose its authenticity?? But anyway I hope they will be HAPPY TOGETHER at the end...! So could anyone let me know if there are news about season 4 or anything about Derek and Meredith?! That would be nice.. :-) My E-mail: Greetings,
Rebecca :-)


omg it's just annoying hearing u guys complain and declare that your not watching at anymore! Give it a rest! life is NOT freaking perfect. if u think it is, thats just sad. i liked the season finale and obviously by the time the series ends meredith/derek and cristina/burke will be together. You have to throw a new thing in sometimes. I will say that I DO hate the idea of Lexie Grey though. and it will be stupid if derek has a relationship with her! but besides that, come on, give greys a break. season three rocked. do u guys really give up when a couple things go wrong? Have FAITH!


Does anyone know if IW will be back next season?


Just to respond to Alex´s comment. I know ga is suposed to true to but i think it can also be an escape from real life. So why can´t all Mer/Der fans Believe that they´ll stay together & get their happy ending. I.m sure you have a favourite in ga, that you hope will end up happy if their not already,


I cannot believe some of these posts. Mostly from women. Who cares about Derek and Meridith, she is comppletely lost... Their story is old and tiring... You all are sad about that? Then you have no idea about the real show. This is tv... Too many women on here! this needs to be about real life... Not about fantasy Island where you can sleep at night...


I really hope Meredith and Derek make it; I love them. They are the, first, reason why I love this show so much... But, one thing is for sure: the show was all about Meredith and now, well... not. I almost cried when I saw Christina in that apartment... so sad. Also, I can't believe George failed his exams! Wonder what will happen..... XOXO


I did not like season 3. I just wanted Meredith and Derek to be functional, at least. And I don't want it to be such a soap opera that they have to pull in Lexie in order to make a bigger fiasco. I realize that maybe they were running out of relationship combinations...but that is when you end the TV series on a good note, not ruin everything and start a fourth season of an entirely different show that has the same name.


The comment from the "Televisionista" has restored some faith that Mer and Der will eventually be ok....what does everyone else think?


I saw the clip from Regis & Kelly where "Mark Sloan" was on last Thursday. He implied in season 4 that Mark and Derek would be working out their differences with each other. I'm glad of that.


As long as the new interns are not the center of everything, I will be somewhat okay. And I will be even more somewhat okay if Derek and Meredith get back together!


Grey's Anatomy Quotes

Did you say it? 'I love you. I don't ever want to live without you. You changed my life.' Did you say it? Make a plan. Set a goal. Work toward it, but every now and then, look around; Drink it in 'cause this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow."

Meredith (closing voiceover)

There's a reason I said I'd be happy alone. It wasn't 'cause I thought I'd be happy alone. It was because I thought if I loved someone and then it fell apart, I might not make it. It's easier to be alone, because what if you learn that you need love and you don't have it? What if you like it and lean on it? What if you shape your life around it and then it falls apart? Can you even survive that kind of pain? Losing love is like organ damage. It's like dying. The only difference is death ends. This? It could go on forever.