Grey's Anatomy Reaction: Discuss "Not Responsible"

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I don't think there's any communication issues between Mer & Der.They've passed this, they talk & discuss things now days...& I agree with Smriti Der left Mer after the eye test was taken, he just gave her some space to be with her friend, I wish he could teach Mark how to give some breathing space to other people, but then again Dereck is not selfish, irresponsible & sleeping around without a condom type of a person, so yes, there's no hope for Mark to be a half of a man that Dereck Mer is really lucky there.


omg I blabbered too much didn't I? But gee thats me and my MerDer love and I have been struggling to piece the epi together ever since it aired and finally finally I am able to relate with both Mer and Der's pov so yeah finally its all making sens
And oh just came back to say I don't beleive Der left her in the middle of the examination When Mer was in the room with Cris the doc had already examined her and she was just waiting for her eyes to clear or something and he might have left when Cris came in not before that There is no way in hell he would have left without making sure she is okay and she has company and in a way he did the right thing b giving space and taking space coz else they would have hit the roof and she didn't need that right now The sad thing is we all are sititng here and talking so much about it interpreting piecing things together via their expressions their eyes when in reality the thing should be that we all get to SEE these things out there in the epi But damn Shonda Rhimes


Okie first of all saying Mer is going back to her older self is way WAY too exaggerated This was no freaking big deal people MerDer ARE MERDER They have move passed that level where they can't reach out or can't talk to each other They can talk to each other about any and everything Like Mer said to Cris in season six "for a long time its just been u and me but now its me and Derek too" They share everything from randomest of gossip like Mark slept with Addi while he was in LA dealing with his sick child to bigger things like Mer getting tested for Alz genes So plz there is seriously NO communication gap btw them. In fact if you see they have done every freaking small step for this pregnancy together i mean he was the one who gave her the fertility shots and that too in such a romantic adventurous way. He is trying hard to make this whole phase exciting for her and to not let the disappointment and the failed pregnancies get to her which is just beyond adorable and tlaks volumes about their love.
Mer didn't tell him coz like she herself said she thought it wasn't that big a deal she didn't deliberately skipped the info from him It was completely unintentional Infact she told Alex coz he was right there in the same room when they were talking about house plans and she couldn't see. Thats the only reason she told him, had he not been there then she wouldn't have bothered telling anyone, coz first she would have thought its no big deal and second like all of u r saying she would have ignored it. Did you all notice how freaking high she was? As in high with happiness I felt she was very high and very happy about the fact that ou know there was just two more pills left and this cycle was nearing its close and her egg was about to drop and well she was just damn happy with the thought that maybe this time they would get it right and she didn't want any vision blurriness or fuzziness or anything at all to ruin her happy place for her so she kidded herself and made herself believe it was no big deal.
And thats EXACTLY why she didn't tell Derek coz she knew the minute she told him he will and he so WILL make a big deal about it, he always does when it comes to her and her health, somewhere she feared he might make her stop the drugs
Even when Derek was examining her she was so casual and careless about it all I mean seriously she was joking about the whole thing and I get her she just doesn't wants anything ruing her chances this time and thats what irked Der THE most he might have told her off for walking in his OR with all these problems and not telling him but at the end of the day he was just ranting about her not telling him and her thinking this to be so not relevant that it could be skipped.
And he was sad he was frustrated and dejected coz for him nothing matters more than her health All he wants is for her to be fine. Even when the OB said she had to stop taking the drugs while Mer was sad for you know once again being pushed back Der was sad and worried for HER At least thats what i got from his expressions and eyes
He hates it when she with holds such stuff coz he loves her and he just wants to be there for her in every frekaing step and when he can't do that for whatever damned reason he feels dejected. I mean all this and the miscarriage it was all a big thing and she had to deal with all that alone when she didn't have to all she needed to do was tell him share it with him and he would have done anything to protect her from any harm thats all he freaking wants to do for the rest of his life you know but when she takes away that one thing from him he feels useless and the only thing he really can do then is hit golf balls


Good EP,including everyone, every couple,but the most I love is 3 men play golf &drink a beer on the roof, you can see their frustrated face,so funny & sex
like Callie said Mark'll be a good dad, but could lost Lexie forever,AZ should walk away,Callie's the most lucky charther in S7, she got all she wants
I feel sad to Owen,Cristina doesn't care about what he wants in their marriage life, she think she love career more than a family, give her the time to figure out, if GA has S10, Owen's the big chance to get his wish
April & Stark is a suprising and interesting
Chief should retire if your wife got sick, she need you, not your money at this moment
Derek should tell Mer don't take the risk and No kid you two also will be happy


@i_am_a_fan, good point about the Alzheimer thing. I didn't think of that, and it totally makes sense. I still think she's not over the miscarriage trauma and that both of these things cause her obssession. I agree that she didn't tell Derek because she didn't want him worry too much, and that she tried to convince herself that it all wasn't that bad. Maybe saying that she is returning to her old habits is a bit exaggerated, but it seems to me that this is a typical thing Meredith. It kind of reminded me of that hilarious conversation between Mer and Cris in the cafeteria about walking away from problems (when Derek was in the woods after screwing up a surgery). Cris said something like:"It's simple. If you have a problem, don't ignore it. It won't go away." and Mer said: "Well, sometimes, if you have to pee and you ignore it, it does go away."
Anyways, maybe it's just my disappointment about the lack of MerDer!? @ana114: I'm not sure. I get that she didn't tell him earlier, because it wasn't that bad in the beginning. But by the time she paged Alex to examine her and she couldn't read the chart, it already seemed pretty bad to me. Maybe it's hard for me to understand her behaviour, because I would be really scared, if I were in her situation.
Thanks for making the point about Derek complaining about Mer, when he himself doesn't really talk about his problems. I never thought about this before and I absolutely agree. I feel like Mer's overall SL of the dark and twisty child that turns into a happy adult has biased me in a sense. I always kind of expect her to be the one who is a bit hesitant in the relationship especially when it comes to communicating her needs. But communication involves two people. Thus, I also agree that Derek should be talking to her instead of shooting golfballs from the roof. I get that people need to vent on their partners sometime. But it was weird that while he was playing golf, his wife was waiting for the eye doctor to examine her with Cristina (at least that's what I think). And one last question: What was up with the Chief banning Mer even from observing in the OR?? Did he do it, because he was pissed that Meredith might be right about Adele? Or is this some weird act of fatherly concern that I don't understand?


ugh, this lack of merder really bugs me.and the fact that we keep getting promised it and it last for what twenty seconds.goshh.


Getting better no doubt


People Meredith didn't tell Derek about her eyesight earlier because it wasn't bad in the beginning. I have eyesight problems in the beginning you don't think it's a big deal, until it really bother you. I got the impression that in the morning she just couldn't see the small print on the plans and on her watch, by the time she got to the OR it got worse, and started to not see big things like the skull. I understand that Derek was pissed but he overacted, because between Mer and Der, Meredith shares her feeling and fears with Derek, more than Derek does with her. If bother him so much that she didn't tell him about her eyesight then he should told her so and not go to the roof and whine about it. A word of advice have low expectation with MerDer, the promo are deceiving. Just because the promo have a lot of MerDer doesn't mean that there will be lot of MerDer on the episode, be aware of that and you won't get disappointed.


@neens I don't completely agree with you although i am with you 100% i did too feel robbed but i don't think mer did not tell derek sooner because she is being like old times. I think that meredith did not want to tell derek because she knew he would take it seriously and make her stop taking the drugs so she kept it to her self and kept kidding herself through out the day that it was not a big deal and that was the irresponsible part.
And about the baby thing i think her obsession to have a baby right now is because she is facing a huge time line problem because of the Alzheimer fear, but i don't agree that she should go to the extend to risk her sight for the drugs.


Smriti, I agree with you 100%. I am just so used to not having MER/DER around or feeling robbed that I felt what's the point of posting about it anymore? I was really hoping this last part of the season was going to be MAINLY them. I know this is harsh but I hope Callie loses the baby already so we can move on with the true baby storyline. Sorry CAM fans but I am just a neglected Mer/Der fan :(


Grey's Anatomy Quotes

Did you say it? 'I love you. I don't ever want to live without you. You changed my life.' Did you say it? Make a plan. Set a goal. Work toward it, but every now and then, look around; Drink it in 'cause this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow."

Meredith (closing voiceover)

There's a reason I said I'd be happy alone. It wasn't 'cause I thought I'd be happy alone. It was because I thought if I loved someone and then it fell apart, I might not make it. It's easier to be alone, because what if you learn that you need love and you don't have it? What if you like it and lean on it? What if you shape your life around it and then it falls apart? Can you even survive that kind of pain? Losing love is like organ damage. It's like dying. The only difference is death ends. This? It could go on forever.