The Secret Life of the American Teenager > The Secret Life of the American Teenager Review: "Or Not To Be" > Comments Page 5
Honestly, the show kind of irked me. I'm 34 weeks pregnant (not a teen mom) and it just irritated the crap out of me that they didn't explain exactly what happened...I shouldn't have watched it because now I'm all nerved up and anxious and worried. I thought they were going to explain the cause of it. And the fact that they didn't has me completely stressed out.
Personally, I thought this was the best episode yet. On the regular, I have a hard time coming up with reasons why I even tune in to this show week after week...the acting is awful, the scripting is lazy, and the plot had become almost cyclic. However, this time, I felt like something actually happened in an episode. Characters GREW, The acting was believable, and in as a result, this episode reached me on an emotional level! Not to mention, the audience is finally given a glimpse of why Ricky and Amy are even together. We see them laughing and enjoying each others company, instead of the usual fights and dramatic storm-outs. If a controversial/taboo subject is what this show needs to take it to the next level, then I hope they address one every week.
I just watched it after having to DVR it & I'm sitting here sobbing uncontrollably! I had to google to see if anyone else felt the episode went too far. I just had a baby 4 months ago & cannot begin to imagine going through something like that! The show is mostly geared towards young teens, like 7th or 8th grade to i'd say juniors in high school & then ppl like me who are far past all those ages. I get trying to get the point across that teen pregnancy is a bad idea but something as severe as a stillborn baby is extremely uncalled for in my opinion. That really doesn't get much of a point across. Like it was said, a miscarriage in the beginning or a divorce would have worked fine. They wanted to do something different than the Ricky & amy storyline, except we all know where this is going to go now..back to adrian trying to come in between Ricky & Amy. Which is old & boring at this point! I wouldn't want my kids watching this show to begin with because I feel all
I lost my child to sids recently and it is so sad but things like this happen more than we think. Eventhough this is a dramatic show I dont really watch its good to get things out there because eventhough we dont want to think about things like that anything can happen. Just a thought !
This episode for me rocked my relationship a bit. My fiance and I have been together since I was a freshman in high school. I've long since graduated, and just completed my 3rd year of a 5 year stint in college. We have walked into our adult lives together wanting a child. And we stand by the "if it happens; it happens" statement. For 3 years, it has not happened.
Last night, while I'm sitting on the edge of our bed starting at the television and crying silent tears of desperation he looks up at me and says. "That's not something you should be watching" and I quirk my eyebrow and him and ask him why.
His response was something that still has me a bit miffed. "We're already having trouble as it is; now you're going to be stressed if you do end up pregnant. It's a tv show, this won't happen."
And then, I had to explain to him that it does; and it did to us at least. Ectopic pregnancy. Two words that I never want to hear in the same sentence ever again.
After explaining to h
If they let the cast be happy, it would make for really boring television.
I just hope that they don't use the unfortunate situation with the Ben and Adrienne to ruin budding relationship with Ricky and Amy. I think that there is a benefit to showing Ricky and Amy taking some time after John's birth to grow before they come together. They have a cute little family. I would like to not see their relationship disturbed for John's sake and they seem happy together. They have never based their relationship together off of getting even with people and rushing. Ricky and Amy have tried to do the right thing ultimately and that it make their decisions based off of what's right for them.
Sometimes, that is the way life is. Somethings we expect end up in tragically. I cried at the end. Now what will happen with Adrian and Ben will they stay together? I hope so both characters have changed so much and have mature. There is no going back to how it use to be.
This was horrible! I had a feeling it was going to happen, but I was hoping it wouldn't. I was crying irrational, I even started to yell at the boy I love because I was so heartbroken. I am very interested in seeing how everything is going to work out afterwards and how they are going to react in the relationship...try again? Stay together? Divorce? Whats going to happen?
I have to disagree with the fact that this episode will make Secret Life lose viewers, life is not rosy as TV shows make it seem sometimes, and the reason I love this show is because it is real...(Hello Teen MOM) yes this is happening now, girls are getting pregnant left and right and this show is showing how difficult and how unexpected pregnancy and having children can be, this is not the first time a stillborn birth plot line is used (think... Private Practice) but the fact that it happened to two characters we have grown to love together, is what makes it even more heartbreaking, this opens Adrian and Ben's storyline even more....what's next for them?
I love Ricky and Amy together, he genuinely loves her, and you can see it by the hesitation he has of getting undressed when she is in his bed that he respects her, and she loves him, she has changed him, not by force but by respecting herself. I think a lot of young girls need to see this relationship and understand Ricky fell
Sometimes you do everything right and things don't work out. Condoms break and sometimes babies born to healthy mothers don't survive. So much of the shows dialog is entertaining, but can be somewhat light, tongue and cheek fun. But there are also real issues discussed and for a largely young audience it is important to not be take these issues lightly. We also have to remember that while we get invested in characters, it isn't real. It isn't too harsh...well not more so that reality.
Come on. Many women have experienced this type of loss but to hear some of you refer to the plot saying "spared the baby?" We are talking about a child that isn't real, completely made up...and for your entertainment purposes. I am not condoning exploiting this type of tragedy but it wasn't intended that way. this is a real part of life for many women and I think it was an honest and genuine portrayal of what has happened many times before. It is sad, but many events in life are. This sheds light onto something that we all hear about but many don't truly see. It was sad, but it was honest and it was well done.
I think the episode was extremely well done. Honestly, it was probably the best acting (especially by the actors portraying Ben and Adrian) I've seen since this became my guilty pleasure tv show.
The subject of stillbirth and miscarriage on mainstream tv is so "taboo" for some reason, yet it happens way more than anyone thinks. My sister lost my precious nephew 2 years ago at 37 weeks, just 3 weeks before his due date and a day, just like in the show, after being at a dr. appointment and hearing a heartbeat and being told everything was fine. She had to be induced, and labored for over 14 hours before delivering him. We all gathered around and held him. An amazing non-profit organtization of professional photographers (Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep) came and took pictures and we all spent time as a family with him saying our goodbyes. It was the hardest thing to ever see and go through. The emotions they showed of everyone throughout the show was spot on, from Ben and Adrian as
I am a mother of a Still born baby girl ! And when this happened to me my world crashed and my happiness was taken from me with out my choice , it's sadand tradgic but is also apart of life this world needs to be aware of infant loss and there parents it is not fare to begin with that a parent has to grieve let alone also grieve in silence cause some people don't want to here these things , some family memebers and friends didn't even say not one word to me no I'm sorry nothing maybe if they were aware that it's ok to talk with thegrieving parents they would see that all that parent needs is love , talking to about there baby. So even though this show put this out there and I will cry because it hits to close to heart atleast maybe a Me and a few othere Mothers of Angels will not feel alone so please all the judgmental people put yourself in our shoes and have some compassion for us we have suffered enough!
i didnt watch the whole show. But i did watch the very end with everybody at the hospital & they all was crying.. I cried myself, It was soo sad . Couldnt belive i was crying
I think it was a bit much. They could have done something like have a baby that had to stay in nicu for a while and has problems for life or what not to show real life situations and still have the "drama" they wanted for the show.
I was happy that for once this show was not showing how it will "all work out" and you'll have a "happily ever after" with the father of your child. Miscarriage, stillbirths are a very real part of life, and I am glad they addressed it. And I hope that the writers will continue to address tough issues in the seasons to come.
In my opinion, the way they ended this season of Secret life was done right. Of course viewers or fans want to see a healthy and live adrian and ben baby but situations like this do happen. Although they happen rarely, it does happen. Also premature babies or adoptions or birth complications or any type of bad news that comes out of a pregnancy are all situations that can happen in reality but im glad the writers chose this outcome because whatever situation, it still has an affect on new parents. So now, im hoping, in future Secret life seasons, we can see where the writers take adrian and ben's storyline and see how their past tragedy will affect them in the future and get that sort of experience of how "real life" couples cope with this type of loss. This is why im not upset like some viewers out there are because i think i would want to see in a show that i have followed since the first episode all the realities in life that can affect mine in a fictional story. Dont get me wrong i
This episode hit home for me.. as a teen mother who lost a baby its very hard watching this episode.. it just brings out the memmories of having to go through the pain of giving birth and knowing the baby will not cry and there is nothing that can be done...also there is more than just the emotional part of this its physical too you dont just bounce back from having a baby and go to school..if the writers wanted to do this right they could of explained alot more as to how and what could of happened to the baby instead of she did nothing wrong... as for this show i could now care less for whats to come...it took me years to get through this..ooo and ps yea things can happen if you have sex and dont protect yourself but if you take proper precaution i dont see what the big deal is....sex is a natural part of being human and most people around that time explore...
It was really sad what happened to Adrian I don't whant that at the end Amy stays with Ben I. Be so mad .. Ricky and Amy belongs together they always have so team Amy and Ricky.
So lets just have the same boring storyline as we've seen in the past 2 seasons of this show shall we?? The baby is born and they all live happliy ever after??? The writters did an excellent job of showing exactly what could and could not happen when kids have unprotected sex and have babies (and im pretty sure thats the whole point of this show right??) If they had let the baby live then it would go down the boring lines of a Ricky&Amy+child VS Ben&Adrien+child season and I dont know about the rest of you but i lost interest in how many girls Ricky had slept with or how good in bed Ben was quite a few episodes ago. If you can remember Ben did say he was only getting married to Adrien because she was the mother of his child so it will be interesting to see where next season takes us...who will form bonds, who will stay together, who else gets pregnant, and most importantly how these teens deal with such a grown-up situation.
This episode shows real emotion, real acting, a
I kind of knew it was gonna happen by the preview last week. It was either the baby died or Betty did, but I figured they wouldn't be nearly as upset if it was Betty.
I can say that at least half the episode I cried. I knew where it was going so I was uber emotional during the entire time. Although I think the writers could have spared the baby, they seem to be putting in crazy plot twists in all the shows on Abc family lately.
That said I hope they allow the characters a bit of down time before the next big blow. As another person said, the 405 accident could have something to do with Betty. I just hope, for the sake of Ben and Leo, that it isn't.
@ JT Thank you! I'm sorry that people misunderstood what I wrote, but you nailed it on the head.
@JT, Okay, that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying. Personally, I loved what the writers did with this episode. The suspension from the pre-show commercial clips totally left me wondering. I thought either Adrian or the baby were going to die. Sadly enough.. Al Though, I would have much rather seen what went on before the still born was actually born, and how things actually went.
Ok seriously I think people are not really understanding what the blogger thought was "inappropriate." There's nothing inappropriate about a realistic storyline. What she thinks is inappropriate is how abcfam is using something upsetting just to gain viewers. If the show truly wanted to explore this plot they would've spent the whole episode on it, not two minutes. Sadly it's what a lot of networks do. I think it just seemed like they're taking advantage of something that is really painful for people in real life.
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