The Secret Life of the American Teenager > The Secret Life of the American Teenager Review: "Or Not To Be" > Comments Page 7
@Kemi, I totally knew something was going to happen too! It was all too perfect and the second they said she was pregnant, I knew it wasn't going to be a happy ending. I thought the writers were initially going to have her miscarry or get an abortion. I knew they weren't going to have another baby situation on the show like Amy's. It would have been too repetitive. Honestly, people have to remember that its just a show and I'm a little surprised that people think the episode was inappropriate and disgusting. Life gets ugly sometimes, you can't just live in a bubble and hope that its not happening or wish it away.
I will probably not watch the show again. I think having a stillborn baby was crossing the line. Just my opinion though.
I love this show! I know I'm probably too old for it but I don't care! This was a good episode and great acting! A lot of people need to remember that's what it is...acting. and that's what writers do...make dramatic episodes for people to watch. It was aimed at a teen audience because its a teen pregnancy and that's what can happen. I'm not saying it wasn't sad it was so so sad and I cried because I have gotten to know these characters but at the end of it they are just characters and real people do have to go through this everyday. That is the reason I wouldn't allow any baby items into my house until I was 8 months and I was still scared that I would just end up taking it out again if something bad happened. Thank God I have a beautiful healthy baby and thank God I'm still here for her. It was actually me who almost died in labor which is another thing you never see when it comes to teen pregnancies! I'm so sorry for anyone who has had to go through something like this...God bless
Honestly from the moment that Adrian found out that she was expecting. I predicted the baby would be stillborn, because if Adrian just happened to get pregnant get married have the baby, the whole story line would be repetitive....but this is definitely a twist. I'm really looking forward to the next episode.
I think that it was an important episode for this show. To me it brought up the question now that the baby is not a factor in their relationship, will Ben and Adrian stay together. Are they more unalike than they thought now that they do not have a common bond. We will see that a baby does not make a relationship work. This is a sad scenario but maybe shows the other side of teen pregnancy.. just because you get pregnant and get married does not make the relationship worth carrying on.
when will the video be posted for the new episode so i can watch it i missed it
Your life is going to be changed after a...tv show episode?...a FICTION tv show? You do realize, the baby that "died" never actually existed and these people are all portraying make believe characters right? I would honestly be a little worried for you if you truly are going to let this show/episode effect your emotional mentality to a point where it differentiates your lifestyle to any degree. There is a difference between reality and make believe...and this show is depicting the possibilities in any given pregnancy in real life, but these characters are only a fragment of a story that is solely meant for entertainment. I hope you are able to determine reality from make believe....
I'm not sure why people are surprised about the drama that will continue with the teenagers emotions. In episodes leading up to this one you could tell that Ben, Amy, Ricky, and Adrianne were having second thoughts about things. I think the main thing we should take away here is not to pressure your children into marriage just because they are having a child. This is not the foundation that a marriage should be built upon.
Oh yeah I bet ya'll just think it's freakin great that the baby died huh? well I'm so freakin sorry but i watched this show all the way through from the beginning, for what 3 years almost now or so?? I just have to say how freakin pissed I am. This was my favorite show and always has been and always will be, and somehow still is after the disgusting display I just saw.. I hate what happened. I balled my eyes out.. It hurt me inside....this show was my every week thing. I don't even know how i'm gonna feel next week when i watch the new episode... This show has kinda just ruined it for me. thats the saddest thing i ever saw. Sadder than titanic or the notebook and even the curious case of benjamin button....i cant stop crying still.. this was the most dissappointing blow to the head. i mean everyone's faces and the crying...it just t...ore my heart right up. Adrian will never be the same? Yeah well neither will i. I'll be depressed over this for a while and so will all the people on the
I thought the episode was done pretty well. Not a lot of pregnancies end that way but some do. And to show that and the affects it has on a mother and father.. im a mother my son is 4 i got pregnant at 17 and he was born fine. Now that could of been me 4 years ago, you dont know what will happen. You do all the right things, listen to the doctors you take extra good care of yourself and even though you do all those things that awful thing we all just witnessed could happen. Im not for sure how i would of handled something like that but to have my son now i feel i would be devastated. I believe the writes had full intentions on going this way sometime or another, just because what would the show be with two happy teen moms. What i wanna see now is how ben and adrian cope with this loss.. if they stay together. They should stay together why have that drive you apart, it was no ones fault things like that happen for no reason at all. Cant be explained. Mostly i wanna see adrian cause bein
I think this needed to be done. There are so many shows with teen pregnancies that show perfect, beautiful, happy, healthy babies. This is NOT always the case. Teenage pregnancy has been so glamorized; I think it was important to show that tragedy can happen. Many teens do not even know that this is a possibility.
Gracie they actually said 30% of still birth causes are unknown.... Not that it happens 40% of the time. I think this episode was moving and necessary. a very important part of many pregnancies was shown. Actors actresses and writers did an amazing job.
I must say I agree whole heartily with your article. As a female who has dealt with multiple miscarriages I understand that this is a depiction of what happens to so many women, however in the end I feel that the placement in this tv series (that airs on fox family and is clearly aimed at a teenage audience) was really a distasteful choice.
Honestly from the beginning it seemed overly planned to make everything over the top perfect which seemed to glorify teenage pregnancy so some sort of falling out was destined to happen, but divorce, someone else as the baby daddy could have been the falling out.
I dont have a problem with showing miscarriages at all stages as I agree it brings the struggle to light but I am troubled by the use of it for a teenage drama. Life is not perfect but using such a tragic event to throw a curve ball to boost ratings is rather disgusting.
In the end it happened but this episode really has left me with a sour taste in my mouth, honestly wondering i
I loved this episode. I haven't had a TV show touch me in this way in a long time. I cried with Ben and Adrian, with Leo, with the kids. Great acting by Ben and Adrian. It was a great episode of guilty pleasure TV
I don't think the writers did anything wrong either. I frankly think they did a good thing writing this storyline. The show aims to bring attention to what happens in real life, and stillborn babies happen in real life. If the baby had lived, I'm afraid it would've just been all happy and perfect. Teenagers (and people in general) need to realize what can happen when they have sex. This type of things happens and ruins lives. If them doing this storyline can make even one person think about their actions before they have unprotected, casual sex, then thank God.
I'm glad they r breaking the silence on this subject...it is real and can happen to any1....it happened to me last august and it forever scars u and changes ur life
Gracey84 clearly was not paying attention to the episode. The percentage was 30%, not 40... and OF COURSE 40% of pregnancies don't end in stillbirth! They were saying 30% of stillbirths cannot be explained.
As for my opinion on the episode...Well, I have watched this show from the beginning and I don't take it seriously. It's pretty stupid and silly... it somewhat makes me feel uncomfortable with the ridiculous, downright HORRIBLE writing and acting that goes on. I sometimes feel like they have set a personal quota with how many times they must say the word "sex" each episode - yet it's entertaining nonetheless. I am 28, married and have a child (yes, I can't believe I watch this show, either). I have experienced a miscarriage myself and it was devastating so I cannot imagine having a stillbirth child. I have to say - this episode was great. I was thoroughly impressed and surprised with the writing and acting. Yes, I balled hysterically. I was not at all offended - it IS real life a
I applaude the show for doing this story line. I had a still born baby boy in my 8 month years ago and the hurt and pain is still there to this day. It's not something you just get over.
It's a hush hush subject that nobody every wants to talk about or tackle till now!
I don't think the writers did anything wrong with this episode. Its heartbreaking, yes, but its real. This happens everyday. The point of this show, however dramatic, is to show the other less "glamorous" side of teen pregnancy. Teens need to know that its not always happily ever after, its a struggle, and its real life. I think Secret Life has a good balance. They show the difficult side but they also show the enjoyable side. My cousin was a stillborn baby and I don't think my Aunt has been the same since. Its such a tragic situation and I couldn't imagine going through something like that. My heart goes out to any women on here who have had to deal with that kind of loss.
As someone who's son was stillborn 3 months ago, I'm glad that they wrote a show like this. Yes it probably was dramatic, but I don't think it was unnecessary. Stillbirths are common, as I have recently discovered, and it wasn't unrealistic in my view. I'm from Australia, and 6 babies everyday are born stillborn. 6 babies! The numbers in America would be much higher. So yes, it was to raise headlines and gain awareness, and I'm glad. Things like should be talked about and shown more.
This is the "secret life." Let me tell you--no one likes to talk about babies dying. I know, my oldest son passed away when he was 12 hours old after being born at 28 wks, 6 days gestation after I was on hospital bedrest for 6 weeks. And he was an IVF baby. This is what is kept behind closed doors. If I remember correctly, infant loss is more common in teenage mothers. The death of a child is hard enough when you're nearly 30 and have been married for a few years and have the support you need. I couldn't imagine trying to deal with something like that when I was 17 years old. Kudos to the writers for showing that it's not aways happily ever after.
Jessica said it perfectly.
I think what the writers did was good:)
it mAkes me want to see it more and it creates more drama and shows the bad effects of having sex!so I can't wait for next weeks episode!!!and PS people it was a fake baby this isn't real life!!! I just hope Ricky and Amy stay together, I loved how they were so happy in today's episode!!!hopefully their love will grow and they'll get closer:)
I agree with the writer of this article. It wasn't that the death of Ben and Adrianne's baby was disrespectful, it wasn't necessary. A more realistic plot line would be for Adrianne to have a miscarriage or to have the baby be born premature and have some type of medical issue. That is more likely to happen. The fact that they quoted, that 40% of pregnancies end in still birth was completely untrue. For those who are not good in math, let me break it down for you. If that was the statistic, that would mean that for even 10 pregnancies 4 would result in stillbirth. Think about how many women you know that have had babies. I'm not just talking teenager. How many women do you know? Think of your extended family. Did 4 pregnancy result in a still birth. NO! At least not in the US. Maybe that this the case in a country that does not have the same technology, but it's not factual. I am not saying that still births are not an issue. They are and huge issue and very tragic. A show that is spe
Leigh, what a terrible and thoughtless blog you've posted.
Thousands of mothers lose their children to stillbirth every year and while it IS devastating, it is real life. Before you post about tough issues, learn a little bit of humility.
Stillbirth is sad, it may make you cry, but many women live with that reality every single day. You have obviously never experienced a pregnancy loss or baby loss as evidenced by your disgusting post.
Miscarriage is rarely spoken of on TV and stillbirth is almost unheard of on TV. As someone who has lost a baby late in pregnancy, I feel it is important to bring light to this tragic topic. I commend Secret Life for tackling this issue.
Unlike you, Leigh, moms who lose a baby to stillbirth do NOT get to turn off the TV and continue life. This is a lifelong struggle that you clearly have no compassion for. Life is not sunshine and lolly pops for everyone. So sorry you have to be sad for an hour, we live it CONSTANTLY. Shame on you.
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