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Who Will Be Mer's "Person" on Grey's Anatomy?

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Is Cristina Yang about to be replaced as Meredith's "person" on Grey's Anatomy?

Mer's portryer, Ellen Pompeo, has made her desire for this clear a second time.

“It’s not very realistic that a married woman would have her best friend be her No. 1 before her husband,” the actress tells TV Line, echoing previous sentiments she made in previewing Season 9 earlier this fall.

  • Patrick Dempsey as Dr. Derek Shepherd
  • Ellen Pompeo as Dr. Meredith Grey
  • Sandra Oh as Dr. Cristina Yang

“I guess if you’re 20. But for a grown woman, your No. 1 person should be your husband - or what’s the point of getting married? Your significant other should be your significant other, so hopefully we’ll transition into that.”

Ellen raises an interesting point about growing up, and the idea of marriage.

Is there a way for Derek and Cristina to co-exist in this capacity? Can Mer have two "persons" that msh seamlessly into her life?

Or, conversely, is there bound to be conflict and jealous in this regard as she grows up? Share your comments with us below.

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the rest of my comment... or dorm room and would get rid of it in case something happened to you so your parents wouldn't find out. Rhimes clearly has a different definition of "person." Whatever...

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@GeekyDiorGirl Furthermore, what planet have you been living on? Female relationships "portrayed outside of the realm of sister/sister or mother/daughter ties" are nothing new. It's Shonda Rhimes definition of "person" that makes the Mer/Cris portrayal on Grey's so ridiculous (on this subject, not being BFFs), for married women who are supposed to be in their 30's (who look more like they're in their 40's, which makes it even more ridiculous). It's no wonder Rhimes never showed Mer or Cris saying wedding vows because viewers like me would have thrown this back in her face with all of this "person" talk. Rhimes lifted this "person" stuff from Sex and the City. Go back and watch the episode where Carrie and Miranda have the discussion. And I agree 100% with Ellen Pompeo's comments in the article. I can relate because I had a "person" when I was in my early 20's and in fact until I got married. This was the person who knew where all the incriminating evidence was in your apartment or dorm room and who would remove it if something happened to you so your parents wouldn't find out. This is what the "person" convo was all about in my world. Rhimes obviously has a different definition. Whatever...

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I hear ya and I'll bet you're in your teens or a twentysomething and not married. There is a difference in having a "person" and a BFF when you're single. Getting married is a whole new ballgame. If you were married and considered your BFF your soulmate, won't take long for hubby to find his soulmate too. Most likely a younger woman. LOL

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@Darla as a woman with 2 best friends so close to me that we consider each other sisters I understand the bond. Meredith getting up and leaving Derek in his time of need just harkens back to how self-centered she's always been. That aside I love their bond. I don't have sisters of my own so I love seeing female relationships portrayed outside of the realm of sister/sister mother/daughter ties.

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@GeekyDiorGirl If Mer and Cristina are "soulmates" then by my definition they should forget men and declare their love for each other. It's not fair to the men in their lives. In real life they would get dumped by the men. Most would not put up with it. At least in my world.

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Sometimes as women our soulmates are other women. We find solace in others that can relate. Meredith and Christina have long ago been established as dark and twisted. They are meant for the relationship they have for each other.

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For Meredith it would be great for her to bond and be besties with her husband. But then Cristina ends up getting left behind because her marriage is in shambles and she needs someone to be there for her because Owen currently sucks at that lol
It would be sad to see Meredith and Cristina drift apart but I guess life changes and unfortunetly it's way too rare to find best friends that last throughout the years.
I'd like to see Cristina find a new person, she and Callie would both be losing their persons this season, they already lived together and they've been through similar experiences (husbands cheating on them for example) and they're funny together.
Meredith can be besties with Derek and Cristina and Callie would make good persons for each other.

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I could understand it if it was only her and Derek. But they have Zola, which should be both of their nr. 1 priority. How can she have time to work an 80 hour per weak job, have a baby and a husband, and still have another person? I get that having a best friend next to all that, but not one who's more important than baby + hubber.

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@sookiee Agree! That was TOO much. Those type of decisions for her family should be between a husband and the wife, or like in the premier she wanted to go to see Cristina while Mark was dying. That ruined the episode for me. No wonder Ellen want this to change and for Meredith's character to continue to grow...

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Ellen has always said that some things on Grey's were ridiculous cause not realistic and she's right everytime she says it.
Concerning the "person", Cristina really was hers when there were interns and Meredith had no family. It is not the case anymore. I think someone has "different persons", a friend, a family member and a partner can all be your persons. But when I saw that Meredith was considering some job places just for the connection it could maintain with Cristina, I thought it was too much. That kind of decision must be taken together with her husband.

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