Entwife

A big reason why Teresa waited so long to say those words has to do with her childhood history and her history with Jane. Childhood left her with huge trauma that brought issues of abandonment, trust and commitment. Three times, she was essentially abandoned by her parents, twice by her father. Jane has taken off a number of times without saying when or if he'd be back, once for six months, once for two years. These abandonment issues are specific to Jane, but with a huge burden of childhood trauma banking it. I think it's no wonder she has a hard time saying I love you, even to the love of her life, because of these deep-seated fears. Jane knows this and his main goal with her since Blue Bird has seemed to be to simply love her, attend to her and let her take her time in learning that he is trustworthy and totally committed to her. Everything fell into place between them in Jane helping her with her family on so many levels, and then fitting in with them, enjoying them at the picnic. Everything seemed to fall into place for Lisbon there. She knew she could fully trust Jane and that he would be there for her, committed to her. And it filled her with joy to be able to say those words to Jane in a way she couldn't quite do in Blue Bird, even though she had confirmed that her feelings were the "same" as his. At least, that's my take on it.

Entwife

Even shouts down that dogma. ;)

Entwife

Whew! Your description of formal, especially public education is so apt. I call them indoctrination stations. /shivers

Entwife

Maybe Lisbon’s “I love you” is what Jane has been needing for the confidence to remove his ring. So in the end, the reason Jane has worn his ring is simply, only and always, because it makes him feel loved, reminds him that he has been loved. He's given a number of reasons for wearing the ring over a few seasons. Maybe even he hasn't been totally sure of why he wears it and why he can't either take it off or leave it off. It's just too frightening not to have it on, for some reason. Too frightening to be alone and without assurance of love. I really, really like thinking about that. It feels right. He just needed to feel, to remember being loved and it was just too frightening to let go of that, the one reminder of the one time in his life when he was loved. Now he has the reassurance of love by Lisbon actually saying the words. Wow.

Entwife

Yes, Ani's statement really clicked for me because from the first time I saw the scene the cowering and whimpering, the feeble reaction when the attacker threatened with only a fist, the weak "no" a couple times, the second weaker than the first-- it struck me immediately as off somehow, not the usual Patrick Jane. But I never could put a finger on it. In fact, it was so subtle that I tended to just forget about it. But I kept thinking the same thing on every rewatch and every time the attack was brought up in discussion. It's good to finally be able to make the connection about what was bothering me. Thank you, Ani!

Entwife

Or just flat beating him in a rage.

Entwife

Love this explanation for PJ's usual reaction to run away from danger, even when provoking an attack as he has at times, lol. But what you're talking about was definitely in evidence when he was attacked in T's bedroom. It wasn't just trying to protect himself, talk his way out somehow as usual. It really was actual cowering and whimpering. In fact, he whimpered twice, said a crying "no" and held his hands up almost in submission though I thought he would at least try to shield himself. When T got to him, he was wide-eyed with fear, staring at her. I think you could be right and we may find out more about this in the episode when Pete and Sam return, 709. This season is so great. TM has always been better than anything else on TV, but season seven is on a whole different plane of enjoyment for me.

Entwife

Both Pete and Sam are on the cast list for 709 Copper Bullet! Not sure if the setting is at the carnival or elsewhere. But maybe we get more about Jane's childhood, too, and Lisbon can pull him through like he did for her in the Airstream. I'd really love that.

Entwife

I thought the origami looked not at all like a crane. Not one bit. It definitely looks like a swan, and swans mate for life. Look at the curved neck that holds the head fairly low and the way the body is made parallel to the ground. A crane has a basically straight neck and the body is angled, not parallel. Swan. JMO.

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Entwife

Speaking of mature changes in Jane, I agree. I was so glad that Lisbon's birthday surprise was successful. I think it was real and I think Jane wanted whatever she wanted to give him however she wanted to give it. And by that, he gave her a gift, too— the pleasure of surprising him. I definitely saw it as a sign of growth in him. There was no Jane ego or need to win or be the smartest in it, not with Lisbon, and that’s a big change for his competitiveness with her, and the team, throughout the history of the relationship. He was, in fact, a partner in her surprise for him by not trying to figure it out and show her up. And he in turn received the full expression of her love. It was so beautiful. I was praying he would let her have her surprise. And it meant even more than I thought it would. I know. I'm a total cheesy idiot for getting so much pleasure from a mended teacup surprise. So be it! :D