Geneva_LoveUBlair Forum Posts

1. Dear Chair fans

   ok lately i've been stopping by GGI and with this forum i know that sarcasm flow is just like oxygen so i never know when to take people seriously. Perhaps that's why i don't come in very often, my sense of humor doesnt hatmonize well in here, i don't think. I still have a part of me that's extremely too sensitive, and when i feel patronized or ridiculed, i don't like to indulge in it and just go along as if that will make me coolor something. If i don't approve of the treatment i recieve, i shouldn't have to take it because that's how certain of you roll around here. Personally i have no problems here, but just reading in the threads i feel certain people are often patronized by some of the more established members here and especially when they raise a valid point that counters what some of you firmly believe. You dismiss people who don't fit with your ideals. And you call people pretentious in acting morally superior, as if by doing that you are not acting one-up morally superior to them. pot, meet kettle. i think you know who you are and i'm not raising this point to antagonize you in any way. but i'm an outsider of some sorts and even if that is not your intentions, that's certainly how it reflects on you. And you may not care for my opinion, which will only prove that you feel superior to other people. Everybody should not be agreeing all the time, that's not authentic and it's more pretentious than anything. People should be themselves but i think it's a beautiful thing when people are humble and open minded and respectful to others. And you may not see it but you harbor negativity by supporting people who speaks negatively even if they are your friends. If someone called you a deragatory term, you'd be offended. But i've met a few of you and i thought you were decent to me when i met you so perhaps it's me not understanding your humor, be it harmless. that's just how i see it and this is how it makes me feel.

   you will probably overlook this because you believe you are superior to me in this forum based on seniority or something even though i've been part of this forum for years.  And what i'm saying is of no importance to you because you only have time and interest for people who you consider 'matter' and ain't one of these people. dimiss me. i didn't expect anything else, so you would have proved me right.

   Posted 2/22/2012 11:25:03 PM #

2. Dare to Dair?

   i think that the simplicity with dan can really work, because he knew all the sides of her and developed a love for her regardless of that, she has nothing to hide from dan, and if she wanted to scheme or play a game with him he wouldn't be shocked that she had this in her, but would could keep it from getting out of hand, and balance that part of personality, while still not pushing it away or ignoring it 

   i will agree with you that if Dair can manage to do that then maybe they can work. But  it's hard seeing Dan adjusting to Blair's games and schemes. he is quite a proud person. But i believe he does love Blair and i don't hate him for it. it's all about the workability of the relationship. If he can meet her half- way. But sometimes Dan can be brutality honest and in relationship rather than friendship, sometimes that can be a detriment. He has to learn to be more sensitive towards Blair's manners and not see them as childish and juvenile. I have a feeling he would reprimand Serena for them, but he treats Blair a million times better than Serena so maybe he'd act completely different with her.

   Posted 2/21/2012 8:55:51 PM #

3. Dare to Dair?

   @DictatorBlair

   i wasn't referring to her physicality either. Well thanks for helping me understand your point of view. i do understand how you view them. It never occured to me that Dan was at all fascinated by Blair. But as a writer he can be very discreet cause his art is observing and internalizing rather than exposing, but i think the writers should have given us some POV about that instead of us having to deduce it. it would give the sl more credibility. because it felt like they just srpung everything on us this season. and it's a weird adjsutment

   Posted 2/21/2012 8:49:42 PM #

4. Dare to Dair?

   @DictatorBlair

   but do you think he ever had feelings for her during high school? And why in 2x05 he went to Chuck Bass as the most interesting person he knew to get out of his comfort zone. Do you think he finds Chuck and fascinating as Blair? If he had gone to Blair then, i would have understood he found her fascinating. I really thought he just loathed her and found her insupportable in 1x04. although i do agree that he was able to empathize with her in their talk in 1x04 bc they had the same issues in common.

   Posted 2/21/2012 8:17:56 PM #

5. Dare to Dair?

   Blair knows that Dan is from Brooklyn and below her social standing but she still cares for him regardless.that's the only appeal that Dair has to me in all the world, tbh. But in that way Dair mirrors Derena, only Serena is not half the snob Blair is.

   Posted 2/21/2012 8:06:08 PM #

6. Dare to Dair?

   well i never really thought about that much before because i started shipping dair when they first started sharing scenes in 4x10 or 11 because i saw something that i had never seen before on gossip girl and it was intriguing and i've always said that im personally more intrested in a love where you are each constantly learning, growing, and challenging eachother, or a love where a movie night at home is enough, as opposed to the games that chair had to play to keep things exciting. so i saw that with dan and blair as something they could have together, settling into a pleasant routine, but because of their rival personalities not letting it get boring, and they could also support eachother with their work yet stay individuals, and not turn into what chuck and blair were season 3 which was chuckandblair as opposed to chuck and blair, two separate people in love, so thats how i saw them long term recently, but i could never picture chuck and blair long term either even when i was rooting for them, simply because they are either involved ridiculous games and spontineity or impossibly boring, there really isn't any in between or middle ground. 

   i agree with most of what you just said. and i understand about the simplicity of  a relationship like Dair vs the complexity of a relationship like Chair. But i guess each fanbase like their ship for the same reason the other detests it.  I see both sidse, but i just wonder if Blair truly want that simple love. She's a complicated girl. If you remember, she is the one who iniatiated the 'games' with Chuck in their relationship in 3x01.  Chuck was the one to convince her that they didn't really need the game and that they wouldn't be boring without it. But Blair was really insecure in what she had to offer to that relationship, just like she thinks of every relationship, like with Nate and Louis. She loves to dramatize everything, plan too much, worry too much, and sometimes taking too much of the responsibility in the relationship. I don't know if Blair has changed those ways because no matter how simple her relationship would be, she would bring the complication into it, like she did with Louis who gave her a simple fairytale and she just imploded it. if you get what i'm trying to say. I don't know if Blair can handle being simple. scheming and planning is like her valium and she needs it. She'd bring some complexity to their relationship regardless.  i'm gonna watch and see what happens but i think that's what she'll do.

   Posted 2/21/2012 8:02:48 PM #

7. Dare to Dair?

   (because lets face it, the reason they're keeping chair apart is because they just don't have the dynamic to work well as a couple)i have never quite heard anyone say that before, especially about Chair, most people say they can't forgive Chuck but i didn't figure that people gave up because they think some of the dynamics in their relationships are lacking. Despite the fact that i no longer ship Chair, i cannot never say that they don't have the dynamic to work well because i still think they have some of the best dynamics in the show. it's the storytelling that's been awful, all the melodrama, it just weight down this couple. But Chair together has the potential to be anything on the spectrum, from fun, to angsty, to fluffly, to sad. It's just that the writers themselves have stated that they don't know how to write happy couples so they have to break them apart after 5 episode. they don't know how to create good sls from happy relationships. that's mostly why Chuck and Blair aren't doing it for people rn.

   I always enjoyed Dan and Blair's scenes from the very beginning. I thought the actors had a lot of natural chemistry but I never thought they'd ever let them get further than hating one another. It wasn't until their arc in season 4 though that I thought to myself "wow, these two are kinda perfect for one another. Dan and Blair. Who would have though huh?" and since then that belief has only become more engrained. I love their scenes. They're in perfect harmony with one another. They may not have epic lines or grad gestures like CB do, but what they have works for them. i enjoy when people tell me about thier experience of shipping Dair because i think now that the fanbase is growing, many people ship it for different reasons. I simply just always wanted Dan and Blair to be just friends. I'm not opposed to their relationship but it's not something i  thought they would be successful at because i always thought thry'd have many obstacles, plus i think too many people had shared boyfriends on the show at this point. I am open to watching that relationship unfold. if it proves lasting,, i'll be seriously shocked. To this moment, i'm still very skeptical and the fact that i haven't liked Dan for 2 seasons now, doesn't help.

   Posted 2/21/2012 7:49:57 PM #

8. Dare to Dair?

   Even when he acted like he despised her he certainly gave a lot of thought to her (I remember that dialogue with Rufus in which, talking about Serena, he ended up describing her like being friend with this girl...Blair aand *95 pound...*). but you have to consider then that he was talking about Blair because he was questioning if he could really be with a girl like Serena if she is best friends with someone like Blair. He wasn't giving Blair any props here. He found her to be unpleasant enough that it would be a serious dilemma between him dating Serena because it compromised Serena's character as a person in her association with Blair. he saw Blair to be greatly morally inferior to him. so that's why i can agree that Dan grew to love Blair. he didn't always love Blair and the writers should try to make it so. they are cheapening the sl but subtracting credibility from it.

   but i don't know if Dan understood all her insecurities then just from that talk in 1x04.

   Posted 2/21/2012 7:37:35 PM #

9. Dare to Dair?

   i used to ship derena all the way until midseason 4 and i shipped chair in season 2. but after serena started dating ben after moving him into dans loft just weeks after she was going to get back with dan i couldn't deal with it anymore, and i stopped shipping chair after season 2 because season three was the most boring season and after that i got bored of the reocurring chair scene about how much blair loves chuck but can't be with him simply because its no longer good story telling and i realized i never saw why blair should love chuck they just said it enough times that it fooled some people.... yeah i agree. the writets have done a horribly job at keeping Chuck and Blair as interesting as they could be with all the melodrama that ensued, i would say after 4x09 mostly. I always thought Chuck and Blair had great potential and part of me still root for them but i just don't see how they're going to end up together after everything that's happened. It's a little much. But it's not like i see Blair ending up with Dan either much less. And if you do see them ending up together? how so?

   yeah i stopped shipping DS in s2. after 2x17, i had enough of them. And even though i grew to hate Dan passionately in the following season, just like i feel for Chair, i still have a part of me that roots for Derena. But i don't think they're good for each other at this point.

   I just have never been able to envision DB long term so it's hard for me picturing then ending up together. Especially considering Chuck as a factor.

   realistically, what do you think

   Posted 2/21/2012 7:29:43 PM #

10. Dare to Dair?

    I was always pretty "meh" about derena. Didn't hate them, didn't love them, they were just kinda there. Chair was my big OPT until sometime during season 2 or 3 when I just went off them.

    did you stop shipping them before they were an official couple in 2x25. and if so. what did you think of them after 2x25? and how long have you been a fan of Dan and Blair romantically?

    Posted 2/21/2012 7:22:19 PM #