Anyone else pissed off that Derek picks Alex over Meredith for the clinical trial?
Anyone who is pissed off like me that Derek picks Alex over Meredith for the clinical trial, feel free to vent out your anger.
I am pissed off, because Derek doesn't explain to Meredith why he is not picking her to work with in the Clinical trial. I think Meredith is thinking that Derek is not picking her because he thinks that she is not a good enough doctor, not because he is afraid of her getting Alzhimers'. Derek did tell the Chief that Mereidth was talented but he didn't tell that to Mer. Right now Meredith is feeling like a failure and Derek not picking her, doesn't help does feelings.
What Derek doesn't get is that no matter how much he keeps Meredith away from the trial he is still not going to be objective, because the trial is not about saving Meredith from ALzhimer's is about Derek being afraid of losing Meredih to Alzhiemer's and him preventing it.
I think that Derek needs to tell Meredith himself why she can't be a part of the trial. I get what @ana114 is saying about how Meredith needs to be reassured of her capabilities as a doctor. However, I agree with Derek's decision on not letting her work with him on this trial. It only makes sense that it would be difficult for him to work when she's present. Derek, as her husband, just needs to give her a reason and reassurance.
@ana114, I completely agree. Derek needs to share his fears with Meredith just as she has done throughout this season. It doesn't make sense to make her feel worse about herself when she's having issues conceiving a baby, hasn't chosen a specialty and is somewhat unsure of herself at the moment. Selecting someone over her will add to those feelings, not help. Derek is old enough and wise enough to know this so why not think about Meredith for once this season?
Meredith will eventually be part of the trial I think so this will blow over.
I agree that Derek should tell Mer himself. Mer is already feeling like a failure right now so choosing someone over her to work with him.. will continue to make her feel like that.
Anyway from the sides it looks like Mer is gonna work with Derek, maybe Der will realize that he needs her and she knows this better than any resident and him. With her mother and all. She would be great with the patients, their families and he would need all the support. This is gonna be so emotional for him.. could be his future :(
Nah I'm not pissed...I agree with Caitlyn, I think having Mer on the case would make it a little more difficult for him...but we all know that she will eventually work with him on the trial, so its kind of pointless to worry about it :)
Again it will be difficult whether Derek works with Meredith on the trial or not. The clinical trial is personal, each patient will remind him of what could be Meredith's fate, whether she is working with him or not.
KMK said it that on the next episode, Derek has a difficult time working on the clinical trial because it is too personal and too close to home. Meredith is not working with him on the next episode, Alex is the one working with him. So Meredith working on the clinical trial or not won't change Derek having a emotional difficult time working on it.
In order for him not to have emotional difficulty working on the trial Derek needs ot reasses his reasons for working on it. His reasons can not be about his fears of Meredith getting Alzhiemer's. It has to be about finding a cure for thousands of people who suffer from the disease. Meredith developing Alzhimer's or not developing Alzheimer's should be an irrelevant reason for the trial.
He loves Meredith, more than anything in the world (I believe he does) He is going to stay with her whether she gets it or not. And thats whats important. There love is the stuff of myths and fairytales. Alzheimers? Its just another bump in the road. They could survive anything, they always have, so she will get over the jealousy thing. It might just take time. Alzheimers they dont have any control over. But what Derek does have control over is Meredith's feelings of jealousy and rage, that she cant work on the clinical trial. Just like most of you stated-I agree that Derek should tell Meredith why he doesn't want her in the trial(and he should tell her what a great doctor she is). One thing I do disagree on is the reasons why-i mean of course he is keeping her away because he would be to distracted. But I believe that may not be the only reason. I think he is trying to protect her. Nobody knows how serious these alzheimers cases are going to get, so say one comes in and there condition is so serious there like statues not being able to do anything. That would scare the crap out of Meredith. And Derek. But I believe Derek is strong enough, where he could keep his fears from Mer. He has done it before. Remember when she couldnt find her keys when they were in her hands? Derek gentley pointed out where they were(in her hand) took a deep breath and followed her inside. Never brought it up, never showed any signs of fear. If they worked on the clinical trial together, Derek might not be as strong.