So Sick of Derek the dirtbag. Hope he comes home to divorce papers!
I've been tired of Dempsey's character for awhile now, but the end of this season takes the cake. What a dirtbag the writers turned him into. He's an arrogant self-righteous, do as I say, not as I do, genuine jackass. After all that he has put Mer through he goes high and mighty and walks out. Acting like he's mister perfect. NOT. I've known that kind of man. If he comes back, and he should, Meredith's character should for once get to be the one who won't put up with the kind of behavior he has demonstrated and tell him to move the hell out and stay out. I mean why would she want him? He loves his career and his profession more than he does her. Haven't we all known at least one person just like him? One who doesn't think his butt smells, but points fingers at everyone else. Makes you begin to understand where Addison was coming from.
Maybe she (Mer) should go out with Mark. LOL Now that would be truly funny.
While not quite to your level, I completely understand your disdain for Derek. While there are moments where I truly like him, there's also a lot that I spend going "what does she see in him?". I have always found Derek's character to be very self-righteous. I kind of got the feeling that even his mother does, when she came to town and talked to Derek about always seeing things in black and white. The part that bothers me about him isn't so much his God complex as his tendency to kick Meredith when she's trying to help. In season five when his patient died and he quit, Meredith came out to try and talk to him and in the course of the conversation he called her a lemon. He laid into all of her fears about not being able to make a relationship work. In this last episode when he found that she had switched the packets, he told her she'd be a bad mother, playing onto all those times she has expressed her fears and doubts to him because of her upbringing. I feel it's very hard to claim to love someone if everytime you get upset with them, you use things you know they're insecure about to last out at them. And if he did that with Addison (which I get the feeling he did), I can certainly see why things deteriorated between them.
Divorce papers?! Never! He still has one more season to go into remission, let's hope for him and ellen to leave in a happier note!
i think derek is a good boyfriend/husband... but he's horrible in fights.. not a good communicator...the spitefull type...... but at the end of the day he's a good guy so he'll come around and and realize how much of a ass he's been.....thats why meredith works well with him... shes knows that and takes him with a grain of salt when he's mad.... you don't see her flipping out and panicking when derek gets mad or in his dark place.... she can handle him which is why they are perfect for each other....and that is why derek's mom means when she says he needs her.......
Derek Shepherd is scum, and he always has been. He's treated Meredith like dirt time and time again (not just her, either, he did horrible things to Addison and Rose, too, Mer just gets the worst of it), he understands her every issue and USES THEM AGAINST HER, SPECIFICALLY TO HURT HER. Season 2, season 4, season 5, now this, he does it AGAIN AND AGAIN, and we're supposed to be rooting for them to stay together in their Barbie dream house? Ugh, it breaks my heart that Mer's going to be stuck in a semi-emotionally abusive relationship with him forever because Shonda's too afraid of upsetting the shippers.
Have you never had an argument with your best friend? Said things in the heat of the moment only to regret it later?
That is exactly what has happened in this case with Mer/Der. He's emotional, angry and upset, said nasty thing's like calling her a whore, a lemon and now a bad mother hitting right at the core of her insecurities. But these two are best friends made for each other and if you listen to everything that Mer was saying to Zola when they got back to the house she understands that he is angry,upset and needs time to think.
Also you can't tell me when Derek was looking at the word "CRIB" on the floor he realised what he said and was feeling all McGuilty. He'll go back and remember he doesn't know they have been successful in adopting Zola. If he answered the phone he would already know this but no he hit end the call instead and Mer didn't leave a message.
I've been with my husband for 17 years since we were 20 and 22, and we have never spoken to each other like that. You should never speak to someone you love, be it a friend or a spouse, that way. No matter how mad you are at someone, you never take a pot shot at their worst fears. I love Derek with a capital L, but he's always been a sh1t to Mer, and I find it so funny that he accuses her of always running away when in fact he's the one who ALWAYS, ALWAYS leaves her.
I agree with both tramaze and aine. Derek is a good guy, he just doesnt deal with his problems well, but Mer do know how to deal with him. I just wish she would tell him how she feels, call him out on always running away because it is true that he is the one who always leave and then accuses Mer of running.
But I do believe he is only taking some 'space' as he said and will be back. I just want Mer to let him know that he saying hateful things to her when he's upset is not the way to go.