Pointless shipping wars and character insults...really long!
After being a part of innumerable debates of who is better than who and a number of insults I've realized that I've been really biased when it came to certain things like Stelena. This extreme shipping has only lead to one thing: lesser appreciation of an episode which otherwise could have been appreciated due ship based misleading promos.
I never really understood Stelena for 1) it was too twilight and I'm not blaming anyone 2) I'm sick of Twilight so I started watching the show mostly because of Damon.
I never really felt their chemistry in the first episode because it just seemed forced and awkward and I'm not a fan of instantaneous love but now that I look back at it I guess that was how it was supposed to be and it had to instantaneous because they couldn't spend a whole season on them developing feelings for each other which would be a bore. I know I kind of hoped in the 13th ep that Damon wouldn't find out that they betrayed which kind of means they must have done something for me to hope for that. I never understood what was so epic about their convo they had at the end of the last ep but then again we didn't get to see it so how could I judge. Considering Elena's state at that point, she just wanted someone to hear her out and she found that in Stefan as they both said at the end of the 1st ep " someone new: someone without the past; without the pain." and looking back at Jeremy's explanation of why he couldn't just forget Vicki because his life was depressing and then he had some moments and Vicki was in each of those moments, same way Elena started feeling happy around him in subtlest ways but he was in those moments and made her forget the pain for a while and same for Stefan except there was a +1 that she was a carbon copy of Katherine. I guess that's why Elena couldn't "lose the way she felt about" Stefan because he helped her get out of depression and that's why it was epic. As Kevin Williamson said "Two people who feel like they're dead, in coming together feel alive again."
You can't deny, they do look cute together and they have their cute moments: The 50s dance, their kiss after Stefan gives her the necklace, the car-wash scene, the ferris-wheel kiss, the miss mystic falls prep.
But now that I think of it even without the curse, Stelena isn't like BE because unlike twilight they've altered and helped each other out on an emotional level that was lacking on twilight. That was just like -new guy, ignoring me, saved my life and has incredible strength, he's a vampire and I LOVE him although I barely know anything about him although the book follows Stelena along the same lines. Sorry, but I had to mock it. Hope I helped decrease some Stelena hatred or increase its understanding.
As for Delena, their relationship is based on two simple thing: understanding- the ability to see right through each other and the ability to bring out sides of each other they’ve lost along the way and sexual tension. Damon fell for her simply for the fact that she was the first person in years to do that and also because he realized Katherine didn't care about him but he didn't want to accept it and he only accepted it when she finally said it to him. As for the Jeremy neck snap, it's the most unforgivable thing to do to someone but when you're Damon Salvatore who hasn't in 145 years learned to control his emotions and they're running 1000m/s and you've just gotten to know that you fell in love for nothing, you want to just shut it off and be selfish and stop caring about anyone. The fact that Elena understood this kind of amazed me and assured me of this powerful understanding they share if not anything else. Why should she and why does she still care about him even after he crossed the line? She shouldn’t actually but the most complicated are those relationships where the one who caused you pain when you didn’t think he would, is changing out of regret and is the one who wouldn’t think twice before he died for you(I know you’re thinking masochistic) and as this person comments “there's something about Damon and Elena that gives the viewer the impression that they can read each others' minds a bit, the way you know what your oldest friend is thinking or the way that you can always find someone you care about in a crowded room” on the Elena mouthing “thank you” to Damon while hugging Stefan and him mouthing a “you’re welcome” back with a smile and which immediately falls. You might not favour a Delena romance but you can’t deny that they make really good friends. That is what makes it epic for Damon because he never had that.
Coming to the claim Damon’s become boring this season pining over Elena. Not exactly boring(explained this a 1000 times) but it did take away from his “mojo”. I mean we saw him in a more pathetic state than ever and it was not pretty. But this half season in terms of him was about him coming to terms with his humanity and his feelings for Elena and the fact that he didn’t deserve her. Once he did, he could move on to sleeping with other women. Rose is going to die but I’m expecting more women coming in so I guess he’s going to be a manwhore again as we love him and his “mojo” will be restored.(I sound like a pimp saying this!) but he will always love Elena(, Delena fans).
TVD isn't about who Elena is going to end up with or who she belongs with it's about the relationships among the trio and the difference between that and the brother's relationship with Katherine and they alter each other's personality and the formation of even more relationships with the people of the town due to the brother's relationship with Elena along with other plotlines. Truth is each person of the trio is dependent on the other so stop bashing the opposing ship.
P.S: About stars shipping themselves with a main character for more on-screen time, Ian does not ship Delena. He said it was a “pipe-dream” for Damon (Yeah! Yeah! Calm down Bamon and Stelena shippers!). Nina Dobrev said there was still hope for it(Calm down Delena shippers!). Sorry, I digress.Posted 1/6/2011 2:26:33 PM #
Well put, mate! Cheers.Posted 1/6/2011 2:45:35 PM #
Amen to that ! Completely agree with you...Posted 1/6/2011 3:02:32 PM #
Whoa. Loved your post.
You really thought about Stelena. I never thought about Stelena that much.
You really explored all points of their relationship.
I am a sucker for the close friends turned lovers kinda thing.
No, I wouldn't bash any other ships. It's just there's something so beautiful about Delena. Something so beautiful you can't stop looking at it. You laid it out for us word by word.Posted 1/6/2011 3:07:39 PM #
I really did think a lot about Stelena because I was trying to figure out how it could be so epic and escape my eyes. I'm a very critical person and I can ridicule something for being cliched and after that its hard for me to think another way but all this bashing got me thinking and Stelena is epic in a sense.
No, I wouldn't bash any other ships. It's just there's something so beautiful about Delena. Something so beautiful you can't stop looking at it. You laid it out for us word by word.
I get your point. You're not bashing here because you're appreciating a ship. I agree with you on the fact that it is something you just can't stop looking at.Posted 1/6/2011 3:26:29 PM #
My only issue with shipping wars is when it gets personal. Say whatever you want about the characters, but when you start bashing actors or fans of different ships, you've crossed the line.Posted 1/6/2011 4:01:57 PM #
@Delenafanforever totally agree with you. But that's the point personal attacks kind of come up during shipping wars. A debate is a different thing.Posted 1/6/2011 4:07:09 PM #
TBH....I think Stelena are okay, And some of their scenes are WOW! like the one she fed him her blood,and when she stabbed him with the vervain dart etc. So yeah i don't really hate them. I just hate Bamon.Posted 1/6/2011 4:42:15 PM #
I know ... Kinda lazy to think about and analyse Stelena's relationship. But thank you for this post. I understand a lot more about Stelena than I did before.
Yes Stefan and Elena really helped each other mature. And you're right about each person in the triangle depending on one another. Needing one another.Posted 1/6/2011 4:56:03 PM #
@Pink: lol...I think everyone knows that. I know Bamon doesn't click for you;it doesn't click for me either. But try not saying hate. You'll be attacked by Bamon fans and they're gonna shower Delena hatred towards you and so on.Posted 1/6/2011 5:03:50 PM #