Kathleen .. you are not 'misremembering'. Tony did have a personality change when things got serious with Jeanne. Ziva even pointed it out in Sandblast when she said she'd noticed he no longer stares at every woman that passes by.
It makes perfect sense that Tony, who loves to be the center of attention, hates being the center of gossip. For all Tony’s ‘Brilliant Chatterbox’ing, he rarely shares or reveals anything truly personal of his own accord. Most of that which we know of him was revealed not by him but rather to us as viewers in scenes that didn't include the rest of the team (ex. flashbacks with Danny), or revealed by others (like Senior) without Tony’s willing participation. He’s a master at wordy deflection. Where attention is received more positively; gossip is negative and passive. Gibbs got involved in his last relationship in a very real way by not only warning EJ off but by having that awful basement convo in Dead Reflection. And look at the way Gibbs manipulated the Wendy visit too, punctuated with another basement convo. And the whole team had a front row seat to the crashing and burning that was Jeanne (who I still maintain he deeply loved). I can’t blame Tony for wanting to keep this one private a while longer. Besides, like Sr. said in F&B, “I don’t like to advertise my failures.” Tony doesn't yet know if Zoe will be failure or success. I vote for success. I like her and find them well matched. And most of all, I like that she genuinely likes and appreciates him. I think having a person like that in his life will do worlds of good for him. I like Tanya’s point that she’s ‘available’ in the sense that she’s not ambivalent with the simultaneously opposing feelings towards Tony thatshe-who-must-not-be-named seemed to have - the love/hate, flirt/reject, lead him on/shoot him down .. ugh it was so grade-school. Zoe appears to be an adult of theemotionally well-balanced variety. And thanks to Doug for pointing out that Tony“despite his comedic ways is no slouch himself when it comes to the serious stuff.” Just wish we saw more of the serious stuff. Despite my complete acceptance of Zoe, like others, I hope it will not be a major on-screen presence. I like the characters having happy private lives that we get a peek into, but not so much they are forefront. And yeah, Spano stole the whole ep. Flawlessly played.
Very well said!
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