I don't see it that way at all. I don't find any heat behind Kate's snarking to Tony and Tony's snarking to Kate. It is a lot like siblings treat each other to me. I have a brother and we snarked at each other lots growing up but it didn't mean anything. I have 4 nieces and nephews and they snipe at each other one minute and show love and compassion the next. That's what siblings do in many families. I had a completely different feel for Ziva's snark against Tony. I think it was mean many times. Regardless, they all snarked. But going words, Ziva's the only one whose actions were also cruel to him time and again.
But I'll bet you keep in touch with them because they want to still have a friendship with you so it's a 2 way street. That's not the case here. Ziva removed herself from him and them. Tony tried for months to find her and fought for her to return with him. Laid his heart out to her. She was angry he came and found her. In the end she put him back on the plane and walked away. Nothing else he could do but get on with his life. She turned her back on them all. You don't stay in touch with former coworkers who turn their backs on you. You can't stay in touch with people who don't want to be kept in touch with and are angry you try. She didn't just change jobs down the street, she changed continents and left no forwarding address. Pining after her after being summarily dismissed and rejected would make him a sap a year later. She didn't want him. He's entitled to go find someone who will. And I'm no GG fan, but if Cote had had the decency to give them more than a few weeks notice she would not be returning they would have had more time to come up with more suitable closure. No one to blame but Cote.
Weird that Ziva isn't mentioned? How often do you talk about a former coworker at work who's been gone a year? Pretty much when someone quits from anywhere I've worked, they're pretty much out of sight, out of mind within a couple of weeks. The position is filled and the workplace gets back to normal. In the real world, it would be really weird to still be talking about them a year down the road. It is realistic that they've moved on, just like she has.
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