A huge fan of season 1, far far less so of season 2, hating season 3 beyond all imagining.
If you were confused, frustrated or angry at the writing during season 2 and 3, you might be interested in the Great Gossip Girl Conspiracy: http://community.livejournal.com/ggconspiracy/
I think selfishness to the degree where you hurt people you care about whether you planned to or not is actually worse to me than lashing out in revenge when hurt and wronged, especially when you also strive to help those despite damage to your life when they need you.
Just to clarify too..promiscuity is not something I have a problem with. That's not what I'm objecting to. Its getting involved with others who are marriedvor in relationships especially with friends.
Hope that made sense. Enjoyed the debate.
Sorry I should have said not blaming both the woman and the other man. I believe both can be blamed. When kissing Dan when she was with nate, Serena would be in the tripping role.
Again I like Serena. I just don't think her actions are less bad because she hurts through neglect or indifference and I didn't think strengths were being adequately treated as well as flaws...and the events leading up to things. Just how different people will arrive at different answers.