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Although I am a complete Alex apologist, I absolutely agree that he has been horrible to Izzie in the past and I can completely understand why people wouldn't like them together as a couple. (I just really only like Izzie when she is single or with Alex). Believe it or not, I actually like their passion and the fact that they can be so tender with each other one minute and so cruel the next and that they can really get under one another's skin. I wouldn't be able to tolerate this in real life, but I find that it makes for good entertainment LOL!
I guess for me the difference is that even when Alex is acting like a jerk, I can understand WHY he is doing it even if I don't like it. With Izzie, sometimes I just don't understand her reasoning and therefore it makes it hard for me to empathize with her. I don't know if that is the writing, the acting or just me.
Also when Alex is a jerk to Izzie, we the audience can usually tell that his feelings for her are still there and he is being immature or just defensive because he cares. When Izzie is mean to Alex it just seems to be because she doesn't give his feelings any thought at all. Now, I guess you could argue that its worse to hurt someone knowing that you are doing it like Alex does, then to hurt someone because you are completely oblivious to what you are doing, but it usually just comes off as self-centered to me.
Anyway, my enthusiasm for this couple really, really dwindled during everything with Denny last year, and while I do think that Izzie loves Alex, I am always going to be sensitive to the relationship being one-sided. Shonda can justify Denny 2.0 all she wants and she can say that A/I are meant to be, but the ends don't justify the means for me. I wasn't happy with their story AT ALL last season and have been accused of whining about my couple because now they are married, but who cares how a couple's storyline ends up if you can't stomach what it takes to get there. And it looks like they are doing it to them again this season so I may be rooting for Alex to hook up with one of the Mercy West people soon enough (maybe the hot guy since he doesn't seem to have much luck with the women in his life LOL!)
*sigh* I just read the description for episode 6.8 and apparently Izzie has left Alex with all of her medical bills. I don't love Izzie, but I don't want to despise her...what are they doing to her??!!
Hi Greysaddiction! We aren't likely to change each other's minds about Izzie, so I won't go on about that, but I just want to clarify my pov a little. I am in 100% agreement that if ever a person deserved a pass on their behavior and was deserving of a little selfish time, it is Izzie at this moment in her life. She is a cancer survivor, just lost her best friend, just got fired, is dealing with a rushed marriage, etc. I get that completely.
However, after having witnessed Izzie's actions starting with the Denny and the LVAD, her treatment of Callie before and after she was with George, her judgemental attitude toward her friends over the years, Denny 2.0 and her pattern of being to the support that Alex has given her over the years, I just don't have much sympathy and understanding left to give her.
Yes, other characters have acted selfishly and cruelly and still do. The difference is that they usually understand that their actions have caused pain, even if they never acknowledge it to anyone but themselves. I just don't remember many times where Izzie has understood that her actions have caused other people pain, and then been SINCERELY remorseful about it. In my opinion, she has almost always been written as a victim, who is just too caring and a dreamer who just wants to be loved. Her actions always seemed to be justified by the writers and/or the other characters. So unfortunately, at this time, my well of "poor Izzie" has just about run dry, even though I think now is the time that she actually deserves it. I think that of all the characters, Izzie has been written the most poorly and inconsistently so my anger/disappointment is as much from the writing as it is the character, if that makes sense.
On top of all of this, Alex is my favorite character. Yes, he is VERY flawed and can be a complete ass. But over the past 2-3 seasons, he has really grown and has stepped up to be a good man who has supported and loved Izzie every step of the way, even though he does sometimes fall back into anger and jerkdom. After last year's Denny storyline and watching Alex support, defend and fight for Izzie through her season long difficult time, even when it was difficult for him, to have her then essentially abandon him with a note after he told her that he wasn't sure he would survive losing her, because things have gotten too difficult for her is just too much for me, no matter how justified her behavior. I like Alex and Izzie together because Izzie makes Alex happy and because Alex seems to temper what are, IMO, Izzie's worst traits. But Alex hasn't been happy lately and I fear that Izzie's actions are going to be justfied again and will somehow be made to be Alex's fault (because that is what usually happens). In which case, my hopes for this relationship ever being what I had hoped it could be and what it has the potential to be will be gone. Which really sucks because with George gone and Addison gone and the newbies and Lexie getting front and center, Alex and A/I are really the only thing I'm watching for.