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I don't think it is fair to blame Leighton. If you are going to blame Leighton then you better be ready to blame a lot of actors that have been in the same boat with a similar story lines. People say that Chuck was abusive etc etc...never once did Chuck hit Blair. Yes, he punched glass that fell on her which caused her to bleed but he didn't mean for that to happen, he was angry and took it out on a glass wall, she just happened to be right under it. I understand why they said she wasn't afraid of Chuck and that Blair knows he would never hurt her...after the glass came down Blair kind of pushed Chuck in that "look what you did jerk" kind of way and ran away. I am pretty sure that what happened between the two of them will be addressed in the finale episode. I really think it is harsh of people to bag on the writers...would you rather them create episodes that are nothing but sunshine, gummy bears, and happiness...or would you rather them create episodes based on things that can happen in a person's life whether they are a young billionaire, or the average working person? There are storylines in all season's of GG that I can relate to, and I am pretty sure there is someone out there who can relate to this storyline as well..
I agree that I shouldn't blame Leighton. Even if she is involved with helping domestic abused woman I feel it's not her fault and I did overreacted.... It's just that its so hard for girls to come out of the dark and say they have been abused....And the fact is, that they do exactly what you are doing now Dayna...they are making up excuses...There is no excuses....PERIOD.
Gossip girl is not an example for the society, but by making Blair bleed, this is behond acceptable. It is the meaning of the permanent scare that will be left ON HER FACE that truly makes America scream. If there was any doubt before that Blair or Chuck were being abusive in their relationship...THIS MOMENT DEFINES ABUSE ITSELF AND SHOULD NOT BE TAKEN LIGHTLY.
I've been in a very abusive relationship and am not afraid to admit it. I've been put to the ground, have been punched, had bled..you name it. I have also had friends who shook me the way Chuck shook Blair when they wanted me to snap out of it. I don't think that Chuck was abusive. I kind of view it the same way as say when someone breaks up with someone and the other person is heartbroken that they get in that person's face and maybe grabs their shoulders (the way Chuck grabbed Blairs) and tries to tell them that breaking up isn't the right thing to do and that they love that person etc etc. I think some of Gossip Girl's storylines are good for the society, maybe someone out there who was raped saw the episode where Chuck tried to rape Jenny and maybe it helped them come forward about it..just because it's a show about rich kids and their love lives doesn't mean that it doesn't have a effect on people. I said it before and i'll say it again, I could relate to some of the storylines on GG. This is probably all i'll say cause I really don't feel like going back and fourth with anyone on a subject that has so many different points of view. I do appreciate your comment in regards to what I said.
On a side note, I'm not here to piss anyone off..so if I say anything that someone doesn't like I do apologize, just giving my opinion on a show that I love! Can't wait for next week's episode!
What I don't understand, is the fact that the writers used every excuses that is not a good excuse for domestic abuse. They made Chuck
1-mad at his past,
2.they made him drugged,
4. and they made him upset by Blair telling him she was marrying Louis....
These are, in the eyes of writers, good excuses to shake somebody, to grab them and try to force themselves on them, and then put their hands through a glass centimeters away from their faces and cutting them by doing so....
Dayna_Jane, I'm glad you are able to talk about your experience...
I've been a Chair shipper since the beginning. I've dabbled in Dair (because I love how they're opposites but also SO suited for one another - makes for a very cute dynamic), but Chuck and Blair together has pretty much always owned my heart.
That being said, my adoration has waned as the seasons progressed. I like to rewatch previous seasons while the show's on hiatus or during the summer, and EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I do, I get more and more frustrated with them as a couple. Chuck treats Blair badly. A lot. Yes, she does some not-so-nice things to him, too, but when you put both of their transgressions on a scale, his sins topple the damn thing within seconds - long before Blair's even have a chance to amount to much of anything.
So for JS to say that "Chuck will never hurt Blair"...I have to say that's a crock of shit. Hurting someone doesn't always need to be related to the physical, even though in this last episode, there *was* a physical altercation. It may have been unremarkable abuse as it's measured in television land, but he did grab her, he did push her to the couch, he did punch a (glass) wall, he did yell and spout hateful garbage, and it did result in her being physically hurt.
He was drunk. He was raging. He was shellshocked over the knowledge that his dad was a murderer. He was desperate at the thought of losing Blair. Etc. Etc. ETC. Okay, so even if we say this was a case of emotion getting the better of him, of circumstances rolling in the wrong direction, of wrong place + wrong time = out of the ordinary violent reaction, what about all the OTHER times he hurt her EMOTIONALLY, abused her MENTALLY??
He routinely humiliates her. Rewatching that episode where he takes Jenny to premiere of Fleur really made that sink in for me. He didn't need to embarrass Blair to shake her out of her depression - and it WAS depression she was dealing with. And fear. And lack of confidence. But rather than just tell her that he loved her and supported her, he takes her rival (for lack of a better word) on a high profile date (and is decidedly PERVY about it!), and then, when B confronts him, he bitches about how her feelings of inadequacy are making HIM look bad and making HIM feel low. Talk about SELFISH! Then you add in the hotel storyline, the disgusting way he treated her at college, the ENDLESS parade of whores and flight attendants and socialites he banged whenever they were on again/off again, the wonderful list of women Chuck decided were more important than Blair at some point or who he used to get revenge on her ('cause nothing says love like screwing a random or your girl's favourite frenemy!): Elle, Eva, Raina, Vanessa, Jenny.
He pushes her away time and time again. He treats her like dirt time and time again. Yes, she will stand by him through anything, and she wants to pull him out of the darkness, and YES! He's tortured and in pain and needing someone to love him. And YES! I know B's no saint and has had her own hookups (Marcus only happened because C wouldn't say he loved her, Carter only happened because B was once again in a deep depression and C was too busy with one of the aforementioned whores, Nate only happened because B needed comfort and stability *after* the depression/Carter spiral, and Jack...well, I can't give a pass on Jack - except that he's hot, lol! And the girl deserves at least ONE real mistake under her belt!), and yes, B's done naughty things too (the whole Chuck kissing the alumni dude wasn't cool at all, but how can ANYONE compare that to being sold to an known rapist for a hotel??) - but I have never seen another person so willing to forgive and forget for the sake of love. She bends over backwards for him, allows him liberties *I* certainly wouldn't allow my husband (Lost Weekends full of ho's who end up borrowing MY lingere?! I don't think so!), and is constantly mopping his brooding self off the floor. (The episode dealing with the anniversary of his father's death = whenever he mopes he shuts down and treats "the love of his life" like shit - so romantic!)
So...yeah. Chuck's been emotionally abusing Blair since the first season. It wasn't as noticeable due to them being teenagers and both of them holding their own against the other, but as seasons have progressed, it's become more and more obvious that Chuck is the problem - he's volitile, unrepentant, quick to anger, even quicker to lash out, and really does NOT respect the woman who's been there for him at every turn. His degrading behaviour with Dan/Blair at the photo shoot, at Louis' party, and then later in his penthouse is proof that ownership/dominance is what's important to him currently - certainly not Blair OR her feelings.
I love Chuck as this dark, struggling character, but not with Blair - not now, anyway - and certainly not at the expense of Blair's spirit. I want her to find more of that elusive joy, and for Chuck to honestly deserve her love.
^^ Great post, every word is true. The writers think they can pull up some epic moment to make us forget everything....But last monday's event CAN'T be ignored. Forgive but don't forget. Blair seems to forget way to easily...And this time SHE CAN'T FORGIVE
@furygrrl I completely agree. I'm tired of Chuck always treating Blair so badly and everyone just forgives him. He has been horrible to her for a long time now, and no girl should ever be put through that. Chair was good at first, like you said they were young and still learning. But with time, we only saw how Chuck's treatment of Blair got even worst. I personally would NEVER allow anyone to treat me or the people I love the way Chuck treat's Blair. It is just horrible and I don't want to see it anymore on the show. I hope that Chair is over for good, because it certainly is over for me. Blair deserves to be with someone good who makes her happy.