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While not quite to your level, I completely understand your disdain for Derek. While there are moments where I truly like him, there's also a lot that I spend going "what does she see in him?". I have always found Derek's character to be very self-righteous. I kind of got the feeling that even his mother does, when she came to town and talked to Derek about always seeing things in black and white. The part that bothers me about him isn't so much his God complex as his tendency to kick Meredith when she's trying to help. In season five when his patient died and he quit, Meredith came out to try and talk to him and in the course of the conversation he called her a lemon. He laid into all of her fears about not being able to make a relationship work. In this last episode when he found that she had switched the packets, he told her she'd be a bad mother, playing onto all those times she has expressed her fears and doubts to him because of her upbringing. I feel it's very hard to claim to love someone if everytime you get upset with them, you use things you know they're insecure about to last out at them. And if he did that with Addison (which I get the feeling he did), I can certainly see why things deteriorated between them.
The episode you're looking for is Season 3, Episode 17: Some Kind of Miracle. It's the third part of the three episode ferry disaster arc when Meredith drowned. Bailey puts Callie in charge of Izzie and George and she takes them to the clinic. While Callie's trying to give blood for patients who need it, she and Izzie get into an argument over who is and isn't Meredith's friend (this is shortly after George and Callie get married). Callie rips the tubing out of her arm and pulls the curtain to yell at Izzie. I hope that helps.
I think it will totally ruin Cristina's character to give in to Owen and have this baby. As someone pointed out, it's a rehash of Arizona and Callie's argument, except Owen can't claim to be blindsided by this. Cristina made it clear from the beginning that she doesn't want children, never has and never will. Everyone's saying she shouldn't give up children for her career and that Owen has promised to take care of the baby. They're missing the point. It's not about her career. She could be a baker or candle-stick maker and Cristina still wouldn't want a baby. It's just not who she is. And saying that Owen promised to take care of it so it's not a problem misses the point as well. Even if Owen is the stay-at-home parent or whatever, it still changes Cristina's life permanently. As she said, you can't have half a baby. She would still carry the baby for nine months, still give birth to it. This isn't like goldfish where you feed them once a day and ignore them, it's a child. It's not what she wanted and Owen WAS aware of that when they got married. You can't marry someone hoping they'll change their mind on such a fundamental decision. People get divorced daily because one doesn't want kids and the other does. I'm also mad that the writers had a chance to show a strong, brillant woman who doesn't want children, who enjoys other people's kids (she'll be a great god-mother to Zola and Sofia), but doesn't want her own. And instead of taking that route, it seems to be poor Owen, Cristina's mean and selfish and immature and won't give him a baby, even though he knew that from the start. He wanted them to talk about it and they did. She knows what he wants and even understands it, but she made her decision. And instead of accepting that that's part of who she is, he just threw her out of the house.