Krista Vernoff Shares Her Father's Story Through Death of Harold O'Malley Comments (Page 2)
47 Comments
GA-Faithful
January 23rd, 2007 5:18 AM
This was a very heart breaking show I havn't cried this much since my mom passed away three years ago. My mom was a seven year cancer survivor but died shortly after having heart surgery. But Izzy made an interesting point about her millions being worthless because there is'nt anything you would do to keep your friends from going threw the grief but you can't. It shows that all you can do is be there for your friends.
Gretchen
January 22nd, 2007 10:13 PM
As children, we inherently know that our parents will die, however the intellectual acknowledgement of this does not take away the indescribable heartache of supporting our parents when they are in pain, and in providing hope among the stark realism of hospitals and sick beds. The details of reality that so quickly become everyday activities, like becoming obsessed with checking a urine or colostomy bag or demanding a certain kind of jello, are so terribly surreal. Death is not always apparent in these situations -- it lurks, leaving clues that sometimes we simply cannot see because of our sheer ignorance of sickness and disease, or due to our need to be positive, to see and believe in the little successes like finding the strength to sit up or roll to the side when the nurses are changing the sheets. Just minutes before my father died, he lifted his arms, tubes spilling down from his wrists and elbows, pleading to that he be let go. "Let me out of here", he declared with passion and f
Gloria Inman
January 22nd, 2007 12:46 PM
I recently lost my favorite aunt to liver cancer in almost the same way as your dad. She went in with the best attitude you could have when going into survery to remove a cancerous tumor. But just like your dad and George's dad, she didn't survive. For the first few days after surgery she was fine, but then it all went bad, her organs started to fail and she never recovered. We finally had to let her go after 3 weeks.
I really loved this episode, as hard as it was to watch and relive my aunts last moments, it just shows that it's okay to cry and to remember them... it helps me heal at least. And it also shows that everyone has to figure out for themselves how to live in this world without their loved ones in it. My family is still working on that one.
Krista, thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I also hope George can help me come to terms with my loss as well.
Babs Grieshaber
January 22nd, 2007 10:34 AM
I became a member of the Dead Dad's club on February 28, 2006 and watching George's dad die was a mirror image of my father passing! I held my breath till I thought I would explode and then I cried like there was no tomorrow! He was like Krista and George's dad, with the tumor and the kidneys along with the other issues. You watch and pray for a change that will make a difference. What you wouldn't give for that miracle?? Its not even been a year yet and its still so hard to deal with. I hope George will help me as the days go by. Cristina made me feel better strange as it may seem. She's such a bizarre bitch at times, but I just love her.
And just a short note for IW! You are an ignorant man and how dare you judge anyone!!
Martine
January 22nd, 2007 6:00 AM
OMG!! I cried for 20 minutes after watching the show! I'm sorry to hear that Krista had to go through all of that!! It must have been really tough :( I lost my father when i was 16 (5 years ago!! My dad died at home with his family around also and i was there to see his last breath! He left like a candle! So peaceful!! I think the show touched alot of hearts becuz i know alot of people lose family and friends from cancer. Thank you for a great episode! ONe of my favorites! All the actors did great! Especiallly Christina! She surprised me at the end! And i gotta love that George!! Awesome show! Grey's Anatomy is the Best show ever invented! keep up the good work !
Hysterik
January 22nd, 2007 3:16 AM
I'm on exchange in France right now (I live in Australia) and I haven't seen my parents for just under two months. Watching that episode made me homesick for the first time in months, but it made me miss my dad so much. Terrific job.
diane
January 21st, 2007 9:57 PM
yeah, nobody knows what it is like until they experience it too. i was with my dad holding his hand as he took his last breath. cancer took him, and there was nothing that could have been done to change that. i am sorry for your loss. the scene between cristina and george at the end captured the way i have felt since my dad left perfectly. thanks for putting my feelings into words.
Jamie
January 21st, 2007 12:14 PM
My father died much in the same way- and this is the 2nd anniversary of his death. While it was very difficult to watch this episode- it also helped me to come to terms with the tears I was holding in. Thanks for the story.
Just
January 21st, 2007 9:25 AM
I lost my mother to esophageal cancer as well so the story line was riviting for me - we chose not to do the surgery and opted for an experimental treatment, but she died two months later without any warning or expectation - from the same cancer eating through the wall of her aeorta.
Krista, Thank you so much for telling your story as I've always wondered "what if" we had chosen the surgical option. There's no telling. But the line you gave Christina at the end as she's speaking to George was so true. And it felt very caring to this viewer. Thank you.
tina w
January 20th, 2007 9:29 PM
I too am a member of the "Dead Dad's Club". My father died after a 6 months fight with Lung Cancer that we knew was terminal. I too would like a transcript of the last scene. What Christina said to George made me realize that it is ok to still miss him.
karen
January 20th, 2007 5:14 PM
YOu see, this is the reason why the show has gained tremendous popularity. Because it is a show that speaks to an audience from all different background, it connects people and bridge them despite social, ethnic, religious division. And Six Day Part 2 is a perfect epitomy for something like this. I mean, who does NOT have a father? Whether you have a great relationship with your parents or you are estranged from them. This episode does poke at something that is so deeply sensitive inside you. It makes you ask yourself what kind of relationship I want to have with my father, with my mother, with my siblings, with my friends, with the ones I love and value.
So yeah, I hope the show will keep on growing in this direction and not be afraid of expose controversial issues and bring up debates.
And I do hope they will do an episode on gay, lesbians. Not every single American understands homosexuality completely. IW is certainly one of them I guess...and they can be afraid and it is ok
Kimmy
January 20th, 2007 3:33 PM
As many people who have already commented, I'm also a member of the Dead Dads Club. 2 years ago in May, 11 years of kidney failure. It's not rare for me to cry during an episode of Grey's Anatomy, but this one probably caused me to cry the most because of the story line and the personal connection. Especially the exchange between George and Christina at the end, about people outside of the club trying but not understanding, etc. The episode was well written and well done, as usual, but definitely much more personal knowing that the writer actually went through that.
TheDirtyMistress
January 20th, 2007 12:36 PM
i meant kiss his dad ..
TheDirtyMistress
January 20th, 2007 12:35 PM
that scene in this past show where george's dad died was the most emotional i have ever been with a show. i too .. like some of you .. thought i would be able to handle the scene but nah. my eyes watered as soon as the camera his mr. omalley .. and then when georges mom leaned down to kill his dad .. i completely lost it. i couldn't even control my crying .. it was kind of weird. cause usually i'm a stong emotional person. but not with that. so sad to hear that it was actually a true story ..
Nicole
January 20th, 2007 9:58 AM
Thank you so much for that beautifully written episode. As always, the music and the talent, the way the episode is filmed...everything was perfect. TR Knight's performance was amazing. I am grateful to say that I am not a member of the club, but I actually felt pain for George's loss. I also have to say that I was so upset by the GG incident and I was concerned that it would impact the show, but TR and Isaiah are such talented actors that I forgot about the outside world for that amazing hour. Thank you again for this show.
Kat
January 20th, 2007 9:53 AM
that was such a beautiful episode and i cried during it. i'm a new member of the Grey's family and i'm loving it!!!
sheila
January 20th, 2007 8:02 AM
One of my favorite grey's episode... cried every time they showed george's father... that was why it felt so real because it really did happen in real life! I get teary eyed whenever i think about it now... i'm more of like the meredith in the show and can relate to her more... my dad and i have a formal relationship having a falling out years back... i missed him terribly after watching the episode.
LESTER
January 20th, 2007 7:35 AM
That was the best writing and acting that i have ever seen in my life. Krista you should be nominnated for a pulitzer.....Greys has become a family institution with my wife and I. we also had a mircle at christmas. my sons fatherinlaw was diagnosed withh pancreatic cancer. he was operated on the tuesday before christmas. on christmas day he got the lab results and the tumor was benign. there is only a less than 1% chance of that. ....Krista im glad you were able to find some closure in writing the last episode. Mya God bless and protect you and thank you for sharing with us.....
danna
January 20th, 2007 1:55 AM
Thursdays show was quite moving. My father passed away in 2000 and it's comforting for me to know that other people do go through the same things. Thank you for sharing yours with everyone on greys.
Ariella
January 19th, 2007 11:42 PM
I just lost my grandfather, who was a father to me, on January 9th due to brian cancer. Watching this episode helped me immensly deal with all the emotions I have been feeling. When George said he didn't know how to exist in a world where his father didn't, that is what I have been feeling since my grandfather passed away. Thank you Krista for sharing your story, none of my friends have been understanding what I've been feeling because they don't realize my grandfather was a father to me and watching this episode I felt like someone understood.
Ingrid
January 19th, 2007 11:06 PM
This episode touched me so much......Like many others it made me relive the death of my mother. She passed away from pancreatic cancer a year and a half ago. She died in my home, in my livngroom. The same room I watch your show. I sobbed. My heart aches knowing so many other people have had to go though that loss. You all did a great job.
Dalin
January 19th, 2007 10:09 PM
People say it get's easier. It doesn't. So many of your words in this episode are my thoughts. I lost both of my parents to cancer. My mother 3 years ago, my father 2 years ago. I was with each of them when they died. Last words, last breath, last touch. I've always been the strong one. Not then! I felt as if I couldn't breathe. Yes, it is difficult to be in this world without them, but we live on, in honor of them. Thank you for this incredible episode. Great writing and acting. Thank you Krista for sharing your story.
Darci
January 19th, 2007 8:23 PM
This episode was like a page from my own life. We said goodbye to my grandfather the same way; our family around him, holding his hands, and telling him we love him. I thought the show was very well done, and my heart goes out to everyone who has lived through that moment.
...Love.Me...
January 19th, 2007 7:48 PM
I only remember crying this hard on one other episode, the one when Denny dies. I cry all the time, I'm so emotional, but this episode touched me more than any episode ever has. It was an excellent episode, and I feel terrible that the writer went through that. It makes it even more terrible that this actual happened in someones real life, to know that brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it. The acting and writing on this episode was just so amazing. It moved me, and viewers everywhere.
Burke Backer
January 19th, 2007 6:28 PM
I'm a member of the Dead Dad's Club and the Dean Mom's Club, too. It was really a lovely tribute to her father. I can't imagine how incredibly hard it must have been to write this episode, but am also sure it was cathargic in the end to write down the feelings. My father had a heart attack and his death was very sudden. No machines to disconnect. When my mother passed away in a hospital, I was out of state and not with her. I'll always be sorry about that. My father and brother were by her side, but I was too far away to get there in time. I think the O'Malley family were wonderful in last night's episode. Every actor playing just ther right level of grief, not over the top, contained and real. They deal with so many unusual situations on Grey's (conjoined adult twins, rare surgeries, illnesses that little is known about) it was kind of a pleasure that this was not out of the ordinary, but rather the very real circumstances that many people find themselves in. Knowing it was
Meredith: People change, but they don't change.
January 23rd, 2007 5:18 AM
This was a very heart breaking show I havn't cried this much since my mom passed away three years ago. My mom was a seven year cancer survivor but died shortly after having heart surgery. But Izzy made an interesting point about her millions being worthless because there is'nt anything you would do to keep your friends from going threw the grief but you can't. It shows that all you can do is be there for your friends.
January 22nd, 2007 10:13 PM
As children, we inherently know that our parents will die, however the intellectual acknowledgement of this does not take away the indescribable heartache of supporting our parents when they are in pain, and in providing hope among the stark realism of hospitals and sick beds. The details of reality that so quickly become everyday activities, like becoming obsessed with checking a urine or colostomy bag or demanding a certain kind of jello, are so terribly surreal. Death is not always apparent in these situations -- it lurks, leaving clues that sometimes we simply cannot see because of our sheer ignorance of sickness and disease, or due to our need to be positive, to see and believe in the little successes like finding the strength to sit up or roll to the side when the nurses are changing the sheets. Just minutes before my father died, he lifted his arms, tubes spilling down from his wrists and elbows, pleading to that he be let go. "Let me out of here", he declared with passion and f
January 22nd, 2007 12:46 PM
I recently lost my favorite aunt to liver cancer in almost the same way as your dad. She went in with the best attitude you could have when going into survery to remove a cancerous tumor. But just like your dad and George's dad, she didn't survive. For the first few days after surgery she was fine, but then it all went bad, her organs started to fail and she never recovered. We finally had to let her go after 3 weeks.
I really loved this episode, as hard as it was to watch and relive my aunts last moments, it just shows that it's okay to cry and to remember them... it helps me heal at least. And it also shows that everyone has to figure out for themselves how to live in this world without their loved ones in it. My family is still working on that one.
Krista, thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I also hope George can help me come to terms with my loss as well.
January 22nd, 2007 10:34 AM
I became a member of the Dead Dad's club on February 28, 2006 and watching George's dad die was a mirror image of my father passing! I held my breath till I thought I would explode and then I cried like there was no tomorrow! He was like Krista and George's dad, with the tumor and the kidneys along with the other issues. You watch and pray for a change that will make a difference. What you wouldn't give for that miracle?? Its not even been a year yet and its still so hard to deal with. I hope George will help me as the days go by. Cristina made me feel better strange as it may seem. She's such a bizarre bitch at times, but I just love her.
And just a short note for IW! You are an ignorant man and how dare you judge anyone!!
January 22nd, 2007 6:00 AM
OMG!! I cried for 20 minutes after watching the show! I'm sorry to hear that Krista had to go through all of that!! It must have been really tough :( I lost my father when i was 16 (5 years ago!! My dad died at home with his family around also and i was there to see his last breath! He left like a candle! So peaceful!! I think the show touched alot of hearts becuz i know alot of people lose family and friends from cancer. Thank you for a great episode! ONe of my favorites! All the actors did great! Especiallly Christina! She surprised me at the end! And i gotta love that George!! Awesome show! Grey's Anatomy is the Best show ever invented! keep up the good work !
January 22nd, 2007 3:16 AM
I'm on exchange in France right now (I live in Australia) and I haven't seen my parents for just under two months. Watching that episode made me homesick for the first time in months, but it made me miss my dad so much. Terrific job.
January 21st, 2007 9:57 PM
yeah, nobody knows what it is like until they experience it too. i was with my dad holding his hand as he took his last breath. cancer took him, and there was nothing that could have been done to change that. i am sorry for your loss. the scene between cristina and george at the end captured the way i have felt since my dad left perfectly. thanks for putting my feelings into words.
January 21st, 2007 12:14 PM
My father died much in the same way- and this is the 2nd anniversary of his death. While it was very difficult to watch this episode- it also helped me to come to terms with the tears I was holding in. Thanks for the story.
January 21st, 2007 9:25 AM
I lost my mother to esophageal cancer as well so the story line was riviting for me - we chose not to do the surgery and opted for an experimental treatment, but she died two months later without any warning or expectation - from the same cancer eating through the wall of her aeorta.
Krista, Thank you so much for telling your story as I've always wondered "what if" we had chosen the surgical option. There's no telling. But the line you gave Christina at the end as she's speaking to George was so true. And it felt very caring to this viewer. Thank you.
January 20th, 2007 9:29 PM
I too am a member of the "Dead Dad's Club". My father died after a 6 months fight with Lung Cancer that we knew was terminal. I too would like a transcript of the last scene. What Christina said to George made me realize that it is ok to still miss him.
January 20th, 2007 5:14 PM
YOu see, this is the reason why the show has gained tremendous popularity. Because it is a show that speaks to an audience from all different background, it connects people and bridge them despite social, ethnic, religious division. And Six Day Part 2 is a perfect epitomy for something like this. I mean, who does NOT have a father? Whether you have a great relationship with your parents or you are estranged from them. This episode does poke at something that is so deeply sensitive inside you. It makes you ask yourself what kind of relationship I want to have with my father, with my mother, with my siblings, with my friends, with the ones I love and value.
So yeah, I hope the show will keep on growing in this direction and not be afraid of expose controversial issues and bring up debates.
And I do hope they will do an episode on gay, lesbians. Not every single American understands homosexuality completely. IW is certainly one of them I guess...and they can be afraid and it is ok
January 20th, 2007 3:33 PM
As many people who have already commented, I'm also a member of the Dead Dads Club. 2 years ago in May, 11 years of kidney failure. It's not rare for me to cry during an episode of Grey's Anatomy, but this one probably caused me to cry the most because of the story line and the personal connection. Especially the exchange between George and Christina at the end, about people outside of the club trying but not understanding, etc. The episode was well written and well done, as usual, but definitely much more personal knowing that the writer actually went through that.
January 20th, 2007 12:36 PM
i meant kiss his dad ..
January 20th, 2007 12:35 PM
that scene in this past show where george's dad died was the most emotional i have ever been with a show. i too .. like some of you .. thought i would be able to handle the scene but nah. my eyes watered as soon as the camera his mr. omalley .. and then when georges mom leaned down to kill his dad .. i completely lost it. i couldn't even control my crying .. it was kind of weird. cause usually i'm a stong emotional person. but not with that. so sad to hear that it was actually a true story ..
January 20th, 2007 9:58 AM
Thank you so much for that beautifully written episode. As always, the music and the talent, the way the episode is filmed...everything was perfect. TR Knight's performance was amazing. I am grateful to say that I am not a member of the club, but I actually felt pain for George's loss. I also have to say that I was so upset by the GG incident and I was concerned that it would impact the show, but TR and Isaiah are such talented actors that I forgot about the outside world for that amazing hour. Thank you again for this show.
January 20th, 2007 9:53 AM
that was such a beautiful episode and i cried during it. i'm a new member of the Grey's family and i'm loving it!!!
January 20th, 2007 8:02 AM
One of my favorite grey's episode... cried every time they showed george's father... that was why it felt so real because it really did happen in real life! I get teary eyed whenever i think about it now... i'm more of like the meredith in the show and can relate to her more... my dad and i have a formal relationship having a falling out years back... i missed him terribly after watching the episode.
January 20th, 2007 7:35 AM
That was the best writing and acting that i have ever seen in my life. Krista you should be nominnated for a pulitzer.....Greys has become a family institution with my wife and I. we also had a mircle at christmas. my sons fatherinlaw was diagnosed withh pancreatic cancer. he was operated on the tuesday before christmas. on christmas day he got the lab results and the tumor was benign. there is only a less than 1% chance of that. ....Krista im glad you were able to find some closure in writing the last episode. Mya God bless and protect you and thank you for sharing with us.....
January 20th, 2007 1:55 AM
Thursdays show was quite moving. My father passed away in 2000 and it's comforting for me to know that other people do go through the same things. Thank you for sharing yours with everyone on greys.
January 19th, 2007 11:42 PM
I just lost my grandfather, who was a father to me, on January 9th due to brian cancer. Watching this episode helped me immensly deal with all the emotions I have been feeling. When George said he didn't know how to exist in a world where his father didn't, that is what I have been feeling since my grandfather passed away. Thank you Krista for sharing your story, none of my friends have been understanding what I've been feeling because they don't realize my grandfather was a father to me and watching this episode I felt like someone understood.
January 19th, 2007 11:06 PM
This episode touched me so much......Like many others it made me relive the death of my mother. She passed away from pancreatic cancer a year and a half ago. She died in my home, in my livngroom. The same room I watch your show. I sobbed. My heart aches knowing so many other people have had to go though that loss. You all did a great job.
January 19th, 2007 10:09 PM
People say it get's easier. It doesn't. So many of your words in this episode are my thoughts. I lost both of my parents to cancer. My mother 3 years ago, my father 2 years ago. I was with each of them when they died. Last words, last breath, last touch. I've always been the strong one. Not then! I felt as if I couldn't breathe. Yes, it is difficult to be in this world without them, but we live on, in honor of them. Thank you for this incredible episode. Great writing and acting. Thank you Krista for sharing your story.
January 19th, 2007 8:23 PM
This episode was like a page from my own life. We said goodbye to my grandfather the same way; our family around him, holding his hands, and telling him we love him. I thought the show was very well done, and my heart goes out to everyone who has lived through that moment.
January 19th, 2007 7:48 PM
I only remember crying this hard on one other episode, the one when Denny dies. I cry all the time, I'm so emotional, but this episode touched me more than any episode ever has. It was an excellent episode, and I feel terrible that the writer went through that. It makes it even more terrible that this actual happened in someones real life, to know that brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it. The acting and writing on this episode was just so amazing. It moved me, and viewers everywhere.
January 19th, 2007 6:28 PM
I'm a member of the Dead Dad's Club and the Dean Mom's Club, too. It was really a lovely tribute to her father. I can't imagine how incredibly hard it must have been to write this episode, but am also sure it was cathargic in the end to write down the feelings. My father had a heart attack and his death was very sudden. No machines to disconnect. When my mother passed away in a hospital, I was out of state and not with her. I'll always be sorry about that. My father and brother were by her side, but I was too far away to get there in time. I think the O'Malley family were wonderful in last night's episode. Every actor playing just ther right level of grief, not over the top, contained and real. They deal with so many unusual situations on Grey's (conjoined adult twins, rare surgeries, illnesses that little is known about) it was kind of a pleasure that this was not out of the ordinary, but rather the very real circumstances that many people find themselves in. Knowing it was