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@Jonas

You claim you used to be a supporter of this couple- and then you trashed every single one of their interactions from Day 1 (conveniently putting all of the blame on Chuck, whether he actually deserved it or not). So you're either lying, or you're rewriting history simply to support your new position.

Aside from the absurdity of blaming Chuck for how things went down between them in mid-S1 (she was the one who used him and blew him off), you managed to completely leave off her sleeping with his uncle while he was mourning his father's death. Yeah, sorry, but Blair was no angel during all of this.

I did have a nice LOL at the "she's intelligent, she's intuitive, she weeps when she watched Knights of Cabiria" quote, because you left off the best part of that- Dan claiming that Blair doesn't scheme and she only behaves that way because of Chuck... thus demonstrating that he really doesn't know her at all.

"Or, can you tell me of a time in which Chuck has said something meaningful to Blair? No, only Blair has. Has he supported her with her own endeavors? No, only Blair has."

There are so many of these, I could sit here naming them all night. But for a most recent example, try watching what he says about her in 5x06. Rewatch the prom episode, the episode in S3 when he fixed her friendship with Serena, or the one where he got her into Columbia. Hell, watch the end of 5x04 when he talks her fiance out of leaving her. If you really think their relationship is that one-sided, you simply have not been paying attention.

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@ Shay: Great post, quite reasonable.

@ Jonas: Blair has done things to Chuck too. That destructive behaviour you mentioned, that started on season 1, also started because Blair was so concerned about how a relationship with someone like Chuck would affect her social status that she was willing to keep the affair in secret, to which he agreed for his own selfish reason (not wanting to fight with Nate). She then later returns to Nate because she got mad after she found out Chuck schemed to separate Nate and her in the Cotillion, which was a stupid thing to do, no denying that, but she also used the whole thing as an excuse to get out of the affair, she claimed that he ruined her Cotillion but that was an over reaction, what happened was that she was scared of the intensity of the affair and of his impredictability, which was quite a big deal for a girl with control issues, besides it was easier to go back with Nate because that allowed her to continue with the life plan she had since she was a small girl. She probably tried to rationalized it as Chuck deviating her from her life plan. In any case, there were 2 guilty parties here, like in many other things after. The difference always is that Chuck's screw ups are bigger and with more long term impact and more tragic, dramatic and terrible than those of Blair's. All that doesn't mean that they don't love each other. You obviously have no idea of how unfortunately, for some in this humanity, it is possible to love somebody with all their might and yet have real troubles avoiding to hurt them of lash out at them because of the person's own dark nature, which is product of other life experiences.

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Chair all the way! Sorry Dair is not working for me. Dan needs to go away! Far far away from Blair.
Wished Dan would go visit Jenny!

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@Jonas. I respect your opinion, but I still love Chair and I feel like these posts are pointless. People are going to like who they like, the writers are going to write what they write and as a viewer I'm going to watch what I want. And I want Chair!!!! I love the scandal, I love the drama and Dair just doesn't give me any of that.

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I just wanted to take the time and write about why Chuck and Blair don't belong together (at least not anymore). I used to be a supporter of these two, but one can't deny all that's happened. Remember, everyone is entitled to have an opinion, so don't take it personal. Watching a show is about having fun, not about arguing.

During season 1, their rendezvous and flirting were cool and interesting to watch. However, by the time Chuck got jealous of Blair and Nate still being together, his destructive behavior started.

He sent GG the blast about Blair having slept with two guys. If he really cared about her, he knew that for the sake of both, he couldn't say anything.
Remember when Blair walked into the bar that Chuck was at? His exact words to her were: "Let me be more succint. You held a certain fascination when you were beautiful, delicate, and untouched. Now, you're like the Arabian my father used to own; rode hard and put away wet. I don't wan't you anymore and I can't see why anyone else would." Seriously? I don't even know why Blair didn't slap him; what a jerk.
Finally, in the last episode of the season, Chuck's supposed bonafide feelings for Blair went up in smoke. He stood her up at the helipad. Between choosing to be the guy in a committed relationship or the playboy, he chose the playboy.
Season 2 was all about cat-and-mouse game. It was so clear that both had deep feelings for each other. However, Blair wasn't willing to declare such feelings because she knew that she might get hurt. As for Chuck, he knew that at the moment he uttered the famous three words, eight letters his playboy life would be over. Though the season finale was nice, the rest of the season wasn't.

Chuck turned Blair's minions and Serena against her so that he could have Blair by himself. He's the one who decided not to have a relationship with her!
He kept toying with her until she decided to say the famous phrase.
All Blair did was to stand by him when Bart died. What did Chuck do? He only kept rejecting her.
While she was going through her college crisis, what was Chuck doing? In the words of Blair: "Help me? Is that what you were doing at your little gentleman's club while my life was going up in flames?
When Chuck realized that Blair and Nate might possibly reunite, he decided to join forces with Vanessa. At the end, they ended up joining more than forces.
Even after Blair told Chuck twice "I Love You" he still rejected her! "You can't run, you have to stay here and hear it this time. Chuck Bass, I love you. I love you so much it consumes me. I love you and I know you love me too. Tell me you love me and everything we've done; all the gossip and the lies, and the hurt will have been for something. Tell me it was for something." What did Chuck said? "Maybe it was, but it's not anymore." Seriously, how sick is this guy?
Finally, it took an entire season for Chuck to say "I love you." At least, while he meant it.
Then, it was Season 3. The season of love if you want. Chuck and Blair were finally in an adult, committed relationship. Their bond almost seemed as an unbreakable one, until the infamous situation we all know, happened.

If Chuck wanted Blair to wake up to reality, he could have gone with a random girl to Olivia's movie premiere and not with Jenny. Talk about humiliation?
The last straw? Chuck trading Blair for a hotel. You call that love?
Not only did Chuck at least apologize, he gave Blair an ultimatum about their relationship "You have until tomorrow to decide. I'll be waiting at the top of the Empire State Building. If you're not there tomorrow at 7:01, I'm closing my heart to you forever." What the wuck? After what he did he was still cynical about it!
Blair didn't show up on time. He's Chuck, he's a guy so he had to find comfort with Jenny Humphrey. What didn't he just do it with one of his random hookers? His excuse? "When you didn't show up, I thought you didn't love anymore." Right, because you can turn off the love button whenever you want.
Lastly, there's season 4. Blair was hurt and determined not to forgive Chuck, while Chuck was determined to destroy her. He continued playing the field, taking Blair for granted, while Blair was trying to live up a life worthy for Chuck.

We all know he got shot and saved by St. Eva, but one thing is to be grateful and another one is to fall in and out of love with anyone he pleases. What did he expect? He paraded his so called "new Chuck" along with Eva, for everyone to see. He didn't care whether Blair would be hurt or not. Wait, he thought she didn't love her anymore. Blair manages to drive Eva away and Chuck ends up declaring war to her? Lover turned enemy? How sick.
He tried to sabotage her college studies until she was left with nothing, he once said. We always knew that Chuck was dysfunctional, but to come to this?
Not only did he humiliate Blair with Jenny twice, he made her come back to the city to turn the knife even deeper inside.
Blair tells him that they can't be together just yet, Chuck utters the cheesy phrase "if two people...." He obviously moves on, he dates Raina. But when he found out that Blair and Dan kissed, he got enraged and tried to sabotage that too. Chuck can dick around as much as he wants because he knows that Blair will always be there for him, but if he sees any sign of Blair moving on, he interferes.
Poor Blair, she even managed to help Chuck with his "fake" relationship with Raina.
As for Chuck, he was eager to find Blair when Russell told him about what supposedly happened the night of the fire. He keeps going back to her only when he needs her.
Not only is he a womanizer, he has rage outbursts, and keeps destroying any good that Blair can have in her life. It seems that Chuck only wants Blair when he can't have it.
I've basically described the kind of relationship that Chuck and Blair have had. No relationship is perfect, but one thing is to have a flawed relationship and another one is to have a toxic one. During the beginning of season 3, Blair agreed to play games with Chuck (the cheating boyfriend, scorned woman). It's pretty clear that she was doing it for his own sake, not hers. Why? because their relationship has been based on games, distrust, and lust. They have undeniable chemistry and passion, but nothing else. Or, can you tell me of a time in which Chuck has said something meaningful to Blair? No, only Blair has. Has he supported her with her own endeavors? No, only Blair has. The worst is that she came to a point in which she wanted to become a powerful woman in other to be worthy of Chuck. Because Chuck is powerful? Yes, but by inheritance, not by merits. Everything Blair is and that has accomplished have been the result of hard work and perseverance; not by being 'Chuck Bass.'

It's become really pathetic and sad at the same time to watch Blair go back to Chuck whenever she has the opportunity, regardless of all the damage that Chuck has caused upon her. For once, she needs to regain her self-esteem and honor women's empowerment. If Chuck wants a shot at being "normal" he needs to go to a shrink once and for all; for his own sake. As for Blair, she needs to be with someone that makes her happy. With someone with whom she can be herself and that can really appreciate her for what she is. That one for me is Dan. I can still remember him telling Chuck "She's intelligent, she's intuitive; she weeps when she watches Nights of Cabiria." When has Chuck acknowledged Blair's qualities?..... Exactly.

I respect all shippers, including the Chair ones; but I just wanted to let out all the issues that have built up this tormentous relationship throughout the seasons.

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The best TV couple, Blair & Chuck it's crap. Joey and Pacey is the best still.

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@Shay, great post! It's clear who Blair loves and that's Chuck. Chuck loves her too and both have deeply loved the other for years. They may screw up but they are in love and no one can deny that. Dan is in lust as he has been with several women before.

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Bravo, Bravo

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Loved this "letter" =) And I already voted!!

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When you think of your life long partner, do you think of the word love? Most people do. Of course, some of those relationships started out with lust, or even with an infatuation. So when you meet someone that catches your eye, how do you know if it’s love, or if it’s lust, or if it’s infatuation?
Another way of looking at this is questioning whether a solid relationship can be built on lust or an infatuation. Love is generally understood as being unconditional in nature. If you truly love someone you love them through the good times as well as the bad. You are not only willing to, but you want to grow old with them. Therefore, the thought of them having gray hair and wrinkles is not a turn off, as long as they are by your side when the time of old age comes.
Love is ever lasting and pure. It is what we strive for. Lust on the other hand is desiring someone sexually. So of course it is possible to lust for someone that you love. But you can also lust for someone that you don’t love. The truth is that you do not have to have any feelings of affection at all for the person to lust after them.
So what is an infatuation? There are probably lots of technical definitions but the simple meaning of the word is a very strong, passionate feeling for someone that usually lasts only for a short period of time.
Infatuation perhaps is easier to understand when the term ‘puppy love’ is used as an equal interchange. Young people, particularly teenagers are notorious for feelings of infatuation. They can sometimes easily move from one relationship to another, believing that they are in love with each partner, but only for a short period of time. This is not to say that infatuation is limited only to teens because adults can often become infatuated as well.
But when you are experiencing the intense feelings of passion and seemingly of ‘love’ it can be difficult to differentiate between the three terms: love, lust, infatuation.
To begin the process of weeding through this decision you should ask yourself if you would still care about the person if he/she did something that you think of as negative in some way. Consider whether your feelings would change. If this changes your feelings then you probably do not ‘love’ this person.
Now think about how you would feel about this person if his/her looks would suddenly change drastically. If that changes the way you feel about them then your feelings are more than likely based on lust or infatuation.
Finally, think about how this person makes you feel. Ideally, the person you love will make you feel loved, a sense of trust, and feelings of security. If you immediately think of negative emotions in connection with this person then your feelings for him/her are probably not love.

Chuck and Blair are in love when Dan is just crushing on blair and that doesn't last long.




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