Grey's Anatomy Question: Is the Post-it Wedding Legal?

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Many Grey’s Anatomy fans remain confused about Meredith and Derek, and the legitimacy of their post-it wedding. They certainly act like, and are referenced as, husband and wife.

Are they really married, though?

Fancast's spoiler Q&A says that if you doubted the legal legitimacy of Mer and Der's nuptials, your instincts were spot on, as the two were never and are not legally married.

Aformal wedding between the two is likely never to be seen. “I get why the fans want it; I’d probably want it too if I was just watching,” show boss Shonda Rhimes told EW.

“But I literally feel sick every time I think about Meredith in a big white poufy dress.”

That we understand, her opposition to the wedding commercialization, and the white dress as the end-all, be-all of female existence. But should they make it legal at least?

Der and Mer Love

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i get why shonda doesn't want to have the big poofy dress thing, but she should think about the legal situation involved in this. if something happens to either derek or meredith, their "spouse" is not legally protected. they can't even be considered common-law, or seattle's version thereof, because they haven't lived together long enough (given all of their breaking up, making up drama). So while from a feminist standpoint I totally agree with Shonda about the non-wedding, legally, they're screwed because they are not in a recognized she might want to clear that up even if the rumours are true that mer might be leaving the show in two seasons. just because she is, doesn't mean she and mcdreamy are separating - maybe he's going with her.
So, yay post-it....but get it legalized please!


maybe they are not making their marriage legal cos mer will leave the show in 2 seasons...:S but i cnt imagine greys without her




just because there marriage isn't legal by law doesn't mean they have to make it. there happy so what. its what they want.


Anja do you really have to shout and tantrum like a child. Agree to disagree because I surely do disagree with you and that's just fine and dandy isn't it. To answer your question "Who cares?" well, heaps do.


they need to make it legal.. get them to a city hall, no need for a big white poofy dress for that, they can be in scrubs but that'll make it legal!!!


I agree let them take vows, make them on the moon for all I care, just don't bring children into the world out of wedlock, they should be legally married before they start a family, set a good example for the young audience that watches this show, that it is still ok to get married. All marriages don't have to end in divorce, you can be married for a number of years happily or not, Derek grew up in a happy married home, he believes in marriage he married Addison and stayed faithful to Addison for 11 years, Addison couldn't stay faithful to her husband, that's why Derek moved to Seattle and work at Seattle Grace. Since the shooting I think Derek and Meredith could be persuaded to get married for real.


It really should be leagal, if anything they should atleast go to City Hall and make it legal.




Yep, she gave him a piece of liver because of Lexie not because of him. He didn't deserve it. He knows it and Lexie knows it, but Meredith is very kind and tries to help everyone even her worthless 'father' that left her, broke her and left her with issues that couldn't let her commit for a long time.

Grey's Anatomy Quotes

Did you say it? 'I love you. I don't ever want to live without you. You changed my life.' Did you say it? Make a plan. Set a goal. Work toward it, but every now and then, look around; Drink it in 'cause this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow."

Meredith (closing voiceover)

Lexie: [narrating] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.
Mark: It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change.
Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.
Izzie: That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive.
Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much.
Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way.
Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty.
Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it.
Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes.
Callie: And let it go when we can.
Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again.
Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away.
Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five.
Alex: Denial.
Derek: Anger.
Bailey: Bargaining.
Lexie: Depression.
Richard: Acceptance.