The Secret Life of the American Teenager Review: "Or Not To Be" Comments (Page 2)
170 Comments
jessie
September 17th, 2011 3:12 PM
jesus! i hate this show more n more. it started off really well then the characters started to get bloody annoying, everyone's a dumbass all of a sudden talking about sex 24/7!! everything just became about sex as if the show revolves around sex and why we should n shouldnt do it! it has become so lame towards season 2 and now everytime i watch it i wanna punch the screen!!! writers have really caught a writing block. we have a bitter teen mom who cant get over trying to pity herself, has the most annoying face and cry in the world, a dumb mom, a jerk of a dad and who could forget the emotionless annoying little sister who think she knows everything? not to mention her 'bestfriends' the ones who ALWAYS manage to spread her secrets around, grace bowman, the hypocritical christian who again, is a dumbass and the neighbourhood/highschool slut. then the boys, ben the pathetic one who cant just man the hell up, ricky, who can't get through his issues and his parents..well them i find nothin
julie
September 13th, 2011 11:20 AM
Stillborn birth happen and it's about time it was addressed on tv. It happens in real life. The writer of this piece would rather they kept a hollywood version and had an adoption or abortion and pretended the baby never excisted like Glee. But alot of women mourn for yrs the baby they gave away or aborted which is not dealt in tv-land.
Triny
August 17th, 2011 8:42 AM
This espisode made me cry for hours and it was so close to me because my mom has had this happen to her 3 times it's really sad and I was as if I was reliving it but I'm glad they had this episode this is reality this things do happen its not always just good news it was a very hear reaming episode all I can just say is I can't wait for the next episodes to comee
Maria
August 5th, 2011 11:10 PM
This show has really gone down the tubes. Really, the stillborn baby was a plot device to get the writers out of a hole. The show it just getting worse. I feel like I'm watching a trainwreck.
brit
July 25th, 2011 2:53 PM
i am pergo HELP
javier arellano
July 24th, 2011 7:17 PM
this show sucks, it started good and was good till Bo Duke died. then it become so redundant, every third word was sex. Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, try taking a drink every time they say sex and you will see. The acting is so bad and the situations so unrealistic that it blows my mind that people like my wife like this crap. It makes me uncomfortable when she watches it in front of our toddlers, because the word "SEX" is being embedded into their subconscious.
Meg
July 18th, 2011 7:42 PM
I'm an aunt to now 7, and two years ago to this day my sister-in-law and my brother had a stillborn. It changed our whole world. We didn't look at things the same way and we still don't. And with all these teen pregnancy shows I've always thought that people didn't get to see the "bad" parts, yea we see hardships but a stillborn is different and this episode showed it beautifully. People now see what can happen and how heartbreaking it can be and now there is a whole new respect for people who have experienced this.
kendra
July 11th, 2011 9:39 PM
I dont like tha ben treating adrain on the espisode that happen today u wrong ben u made my gurl mad u didnt have to say all that to her wat is wrong with u grow up
katie
July 7th, 2011 3:44 AM
As a 36 year old mother of a 16 year old, we watch together faithfully. I have suffered a stillbirth, and I had to leave the room during part of this episode when adrian was crying with her mother. Honestly I thought it was well done, portrayed honestly, true and with feeling. I thought the amount of emotion was intense and leaving it for just a few moments was appropriate. I also appreciated the fast forwarrding of two months so as not to see the immediate time period of grief, we all now they were grieving but its not entertaining and what we want to see as viewers is their lives going on, so I thought it was done respectufully. And ya know, the fairy tail doesn't always work out and I think that msg needs to get out there...your boyfriend probably won't marry you or stick around, you will be up late and have late night er visits, medical issues, and sometimes babies die. Its sad, but when kids pretend to be grown ups they have to be prepared for grown up stuff.
stephanie. :)
June 27th, 2011 11:20 PM
THIS PART OF THE SEASON WAS REAL LIFE COME ON PPL EVERYONE KNOWS THAT THIS STUFF HAPPENS IN REAL LIFE. YES I CRIED MY EYES OUT WITH THIS ONE I HAVE TWO KIDS AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT THEM. BUT REAL LIFE THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME AN THIS SHOW IS ABOUT REAL LIFE.
xoxaynaxox
June 23rd, 2011 11:27 PM
I have been a faithful Secret Life watcher since the beginning but I can't bring myself to watch this episode yet. I am almost 7 months pregnant right now so I can imagine all the scary thoughts and nightmares I would have after watching it. :( I really want to catch the rest of the storyline though so I don't get behind.
s
June 23rd, 2011 4:53 PM
i was heartbroken and thought the same--did the writers have to go that route...they could have had the baby have a disability and let adrian deal with not have a "perfect" baby
Jess
June 22nd, 2011 3:07 AM
As a mother who has been through the tragedy of a still born I believe that this episode was very enlightening. So many teen girls and even adult women think having a baby is "no big deal" and "that won't happen to me". But in all reality it can happen to ANYBODY. This episode hit home in a big way. My husband and I lost our daughter 2 years ago and the pain and heartache is still there. I pretty much dehydrated myself with the river of tears while watching this episode. Bravo to the writers for showing that NOBODY is invincible to this heartache.
kayla hicks
June 20th, 2011 9:22 PM
I think that adrian and ben shouldnt have lost the baby in the storyline. this is a drama show, but having a stillborn would worry some people who are pregnant, women who watch this show wouldnt have thought that anything would have happened that is bad.. i would have never thought this show would have such a shocker like that.. the secret life writers should have wrote the storyline as adrian and ben having their baby and choosing to give it up, or adrian and ben keeping the baby and continuing to live together and then show all the problems and struggles that happens when you try to live on your own when your still very dependent on your parents, and show the struggles that happens when leo quits catering to his sons every needs and makes him learn on his own and lets him and adrian face how life really is when your young and trying to make it with a baby, although your already married.
bre
June 14th, 2011 11:23 PM
Just watched this episode about twenty minutes ago. This obviously didn't come as a shock. For those who thought it did... prolly don't know what it takes for writers to keep the audience interested. What we are interested in is real life drama situations. This is a real life situation and I for one am even more excited to watch future episodes. We are now really gonna be able to dig deep into each character and see their take on a real life situation like a stillborn, and how they are going to handle themselves. God would never give us something we could not handle. Adrian and ben are gonna come out of this, stronger, more mature, and really get to know more about themselves and eachother. Whether they stay ttogether or not. I would love to see them stay together, but just like real life situations it always doesn't work out that way. So I guess we will see.
oscar
June 13th, 2011 8:05 AM
what they went through is reality it happens more then you know....
as a woman who had a misscarriage it hard for people to watch even in a storyline. This show finally show a side of teenagers getting pregnet that is real. I think it was the best show they have done. Keep making it real and you will again more viewer instead of making it kool for teens to have babies
debster
June 12th, 2011 4:30 PM
To answer the question it necessary to kill a baby just to shake up a one hour drama on ABC Family well it might not have been necessary but let's remember there wasn't actually a baby in real life so talking about adoption as an option is, in my opinion, a bit silly. It made for excellent television and is sure a lot more realistic than the teenager who gets pregnant, then married and then lives happily ever after in her expensive condo with her rich boyfriend. That tragedy happens is an unfortunate fact of life and this sure made me bawl my eyes out. I think the cast did an excellent job in portraying that really difficult scene. Can't wait to see what happens next season.
Courtney
June 12th, 2011 2:35 AM
This episode was life changing for me.
I just had a baby four months ago, and I could not ever imagine that pain. You never really think about that. I respect them for doing something that is SUCH a sensitive subject, because it really did open my eyes to how blessed I truly am to have my beautiful healthy son. This episode broke my heart and filled me with joy at the same time, and I've never experienced anything like it. I never really loved Secret Life, but now my respect for the show is through the roof.
anon
June 11th, 2011 5:18 AM
I'm sorry, but having the baby die was just not something they should have done. This is just my look onto this. I know that they are trying to make Teen Pregnancy scary and everything, but please, they are just trying to get everyone NOT to have sex, this is just an outcome of the sex, and the stillbirth was not the right way to go. Maybe an adoption would have been better. Wait, is that the next person thats going to have a baby? She's going to have an adoption? Who knows? All I know is that seeing Ben's Dad (can't spell their last name) with those tears broke me down. Seeing all of them crying made me freaking bawl. I did NOT like this episode, not one bit.
Brittany
June 10th, 2011 11:28 PM
I had seen a few episodes of this show, but it wasn't until an unexpected pregnancy that I suddenly fell in love with it. I'm not a teen, but I feel like I was too young. I have since seen every episode and I've been blessed in giving birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl, and this episode completely broke my heart. I'm so impressed with the show for tackling such a controversial issue and to have handled it so well really brings the show up to another level.
crystal
June 10th, 2011 11:19 PM
For those of you who think the episode was to much I know women who give birth and they also die themselves while giving birth and the baby dies this episode was good enough I have aunts who've given birth and had the baby but the baby dies right in there arm that's got to be the worst at least adrian knew before you know its still harsh but its life it happens
crystal
June 10th, 2011 11:16 PM
Hi I'm a huge fan of secret life I've seen every episode truthfully this was a great episode it made me want to keep watching the show and it leaves you wondering what's happening next but as for me I think "AMY AND RICKY" should be together they're adorable they have a child and he's different because of her he changed him and Adrian don't belong together and ben also changed adrian a bit but AMY and RICKY are the best its the reason why I even record the show when I'm not home its because they belong together and I don't know he's hott and she's hot and I'm dying to know if they'll have sex they deserve it she's been so good he's been so good and it'll be super exciting for them and us as viewers if your a fan of TEAM "AMY and RICKY" email me at cruiz1105@yahoo.com so we can do something to keep them together I'd be so devastated if they don't end up together
Jenn
June 10th, 2011 1:38 PM
Wow, the ignorance on here is rather astounding. "They should have shown a miscarriage. They took it too far." Can someone explain to me how a miscarriage is any less heartbreaking than having a stillborn? For those of you that have children and respect the show - you're incredible. For those of you that it's happened to - I am so sorry for your loss. For the rest of you that think that it would have been more appropriate for Adrian to have a miscarriage - you're ridiculous. My sister just had a miscarriage and it in no way was easy for her. Losing a baby is losing a baby. It's tragic, devastating and life changing. How it happens doesn't change the outcome or how terrible that reality is. If you can't handle what happens to many women then don't watch the show...but PLEASE shut up about how they could have chosen a different way for the baby to die to make it easier for YOU to watch. Kudos ABCfamily for tackling thorny issues - Francia did incredible by the way - shes always been the
Cynthia
June 10th, 2011 2:10 AM
I believe it was a good and informative. They tackled an issue that is Taboo to talk about, I too lost my son and stillbirthed. Even though it is a show some teenagers connect to the show and now know its not easy dealing with these issues. I am grateful to the writters and actors, amazing job....unfortunately I cried a lil longer than usual during the episode.
September 17th, 2011 3:12 PM
jesus! i hate this show more n more. it started off really well then the characters started to get bloody annoying, everyone's a dumbass all of a sudden talking about sex 24/7!! everything just became about sex as if the show revolves around sex and why we should n shouldnt do it! it has become so lame towards season 2 and now everytime i watch it i wanna punch the screen!!! writers have really caught a writing block. we have a bitter teen mom who cant get over trying to pity herself, has the most annoying face and cry in the world, a dumb mom, a jerk of a dad and who could forget the emotionless annoying little sister who think she knows everything? not to mention her 'bestfriends' the ones who ALWAYS manage to spread her secrets around, grace bowman, the hypocritical christian who again, is a dumbass and the neighbourhood/highschool slut. then the boys, ben the pathetic one who cant just man the hell up, ricky, who can't get through his issues and his parents..well them i find nothin
September 13th, 2011 11:20 AM
Stillborn birth happen and it's about time it was addressed on tv. It happens in real life. The writer of this piece would rather they kept a hollywood version and had an adoption or abortion and pretended the baby never excisted like Glee. But alot of women mourn for yrs the baby they gave away or aborted which is not dealt in tv-land.
August 17th, 2011 8:42 AM
This espisode made me cry for hours and it was so close to me because my mom has had this happen to her 3 times it's really sad and I was as if I was reliving it but I'm glad they had this episode this is reality this things do happen its not always just good news it was a very hear reaming episode all I can just say is I can't wait for the next episodes to comee
August 5th, 2011 11:10 PM
This show has really gone down the tubes. Really, the stillborn baby was a plot device to get the writers out of a hole. The show it just getting worse. I feel like I'm watching a trainwreck.
July 25th, 2011 2:53 PM
i am pergo HELP
July 24th, 2011 7:17 PM
this show sucks, it started good and was good till Bo Duke died. then it become so redundant, every third word was sex. Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, try taking a drink every time they say sex and you will see. The acting is so bad and the situations so unrealistic that it blows my mind that people like my wife like this crap. It makes me uncomfortable when she watches it in front of our toddlers, because the word "SEX" is being embedded into their subconscious.
July 18th, 2011 7:42 PM
I'm an aunt to now 7, and two years ago to this day my sister-in-law and my brother had a stillborn. It changed our whole world. We didn't look at things the same way and we still don't. And with all these teen pregnancy shows I've always thought that people didn't get to see the "bad" parts, yea we see hardships but a stillborn is different and this episode showed it beautifully. People now see what can happen and how heartbreaking it can be and now there is a whole new respect for people who have experienced this.
July 11th, 2011 9:39 PM
I dont like tha ben treating adrain on the espisode that happen today u wrong ben u made my gurl mad u didnt have to say all that to her wat is wrong with u grow up
July 7th, 2011 3:44 AM
As a 36 year old mother of a 16 year old, we watch together faithfully. I have suffered a stillbirth, and I had to leave the room during part of this episode when adrian was crying with her mother. Honestly I thought it was well done, portrayed honestly, true and with feeling. I thought the amount of emotion was intense and leaving it for just a few moments was appropriate. I also appreciated the fast forwarrding of two months so as not to see the immediate time period of grief, we all now they were grieving but its not entertaining and what we want to see as viewers is their lives going on, so I thought it was done respectufully. And ya know, the fairy tail doesn't always work out and I think that msg needs to get out there...your boyfriend probably won't marry you or stick around, you will be up late and have late night er visits, medical issues, and sometimes babies die. Its sad, but when kids pretend to be grown ups they have to be prepared for grown up stuff.
June 27th, 2011 11:20 PM
THIS PART OF THE SEASON WAS REAL LIFE COME ON PPL EVERYONE KNOWS THAT THIS STUFF HAPPENS IN REAL LIFE. YES I CRIED MY EYES OUT WITH THIS ONE I HAVE TWO KIDS AND I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT THEM. BUT REAL LIFE THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME AN THIS SHOW IS ABOUT REAL LIFE.
June 23rd, 2011 11:27 PM
I have been a faithful Secret Life watcher since the beginning but I can't bring myself to watch this episode yet. I am almost 7 months pregnant right now so I can imagine all the scary thoughts and nightmares I would have after watching it. :( I really want to catch the rest of the storyline though so I don't get behind.
June 23rd, 2011 4:53 PM
i was heartbroken and thought the same--did the writers have to go that route...they could have had the baby have a disability and let adrian deal with not have a "perfect" baby
June 22nd, 2011 3:07 AM
As a mother who has been through the tragedy of a still born I believe that this episode was very enlightening. So many teen girls and even adult women think having a baby is "no big deal" and "that won't happen to me". But in all reality it can happen to ANYBODY. This episode hit home in a big way. My husband and I lost our daughter 2 years ago and the pain and heartache is still there. I pretty much dehydrated myself with the river of tears while watching this episode. Bravo to the writers for showing that NOBODY is invincible to this heartache.
June 20th, 2011 9:22 PM
I think that adrian and ben shouldnt have lost the baby in the storyline. this is a drama show, but having a stillborn would worry some people who are pregnant, women who watch this show wouldnt have thought that anything would have happened that is bad.. i would have never thought this show would have such a shocker like that.. the secret life writers should have wrote the storyline as adrian and ben having their baby and choosing to give it up, or adrian and ben keeping the baby and continuing to live together and then show all the problems and struggles that happens when you try to live on your own when your still very dependent on your parents, and show the struggles that happens when leo quits catering to his sons every needs and makes him learn on his own and lets him and adrian face how life really is when your young and trying to make it with a baby, although your already married.
June 14th, 2011 11:23 PM
Just watched this episode about twenty minutes ago. This obviously didn't come as a shock. For those who thought it did... prolly don't know what it takes for writers to keep the audience interested. What we are interested in is real life drama situations. This is a real life situation and I for one am even more excited to watch future episodes. We are now really gonna be able to dig deep into each character and see their take on a real life situation like a stillborn, and how they are going to handle themselves. God would never give us something we could not handle. Adrian and ben are gonna come out of this, stronger, more mature, and really get to know more about themselves and eachother. Whether they stay ttogether or not. I would love to see them stay together, but just like real life situations it always doesn't work out that way. So I guess we will see.
June 13th, 2011 8:05 AM
what they went through is reality it happens more then you know....
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June 13th, 2011 1:38 AM
as a woman who had a misscarriage it hard for people to watch even in a storyline. This show finally show a side of teenagers getting pregnet that is real. I think it was the best show they have done. Keep making it real and you will again more viewer instead of making it kool for teens to have babies
June 12th, 2011 4:30 PM
To answer the question it necessary to kill a baby just to shake up a one hour drama on ABC Family well it might not have been necessary but let's remember there wasn't actually a baby in real life so talking about adoption as an option is, in my opinion, a bit silly. It made for excellent television and is sure a lot more realistic than the teenager who gets pregnant, then married and then lives happily ever after in her expensive condo with her rich boyfriend. That tragedy happens is an unfortunate fact of life and this sure made me bawl my eyes out. I think the cast did an excellent job in portraying that really difficult scene. Can't wait to see what happens next season.
June 12th, 2011 2:35 AM
This episode was life changing for me.
I just had a baby four months ago, and I could not ever imagine that pain. You never really think about that. I respect them for doing something that is SUCH a sensitive subject, because it really did open my eyes to how blessed I truly am to have my beautiful healthy son. This episode broke my heart and filled me with joy at the same time, and I've never experienced anything like it. I never really loved Secret Life, but now my respect for the show is through the roof.
June 11th, 2011 5:18 AM
I'm sorry, but having the baby die was just not something they should have done. This is just my look onto this. I know that they are trying to make Teen Pregnancy scary and everything, but please, they are just trying to get everyone NOT to have sex, this is just an outcome of the sex, and the stillbirth was not the right way to go. Maybe an adoption would have been better. Wait, is that the next person thats going to have a baby? She's going to have an adoption? Who knows? All I know is that seeing Ben's Dad (can't spell their last name) with those tears broke me down. Seeing all of them crying made me freaking bawl. I did NOT like this episode, not one bit.
June 10th, 2011 11:28 PM
I had seen a few episodes of this show, but it wasn't until an unexpected pregnancy that I suddenly fell in love with it. I'm not a teen, but I feel like I was too young. I have since seen every episode and I've been blessed in giving birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl, and this episode completely broke my heart. I'm so impressed with the show for tackling such a controversial issue and to have handled it so well really brings the show up to another level.
June 10th, 2011 11:19 PM
For those of you who think the episode was to much I know women who give birth and they also die themselves while giving birth and the baby dies this episode was good enough I have aunts who've given birth and had the baby but the baby dies right in there arm that's got to be the worst at least adrian knew before you know its still harsh but its life it happens
June 10th, 2011 11:16 PM
Hi I'm a huge fan of secret life I've seen every episode truthfully this was a great episode it made me want to keep watching the show and it leaves you wondering what's happening next but as for me I think "AMY AND RICKY" should be together they're adorable they have a child and he's different because of her he changed him and Adrian don't belong together and ben also changed adrian a bit but AMY and RICKY are the best its the reason why I even record the show when I'm not home its because they belong together and I don't know he's hott and she's hot and I'm dying to know if they'll have sex they deserve it she's been so good he's been so good and it'll be super exciting for them and us as viewers if your a fan of TEAM "AMY and RICKY" email me at cruiz1105@yahoo.com so we can do something to keep them together I'd be so devastated if they don't end up together
June 10th, 2011 1:38 PM
Wow, the ignorance on here is rather astounding. "They should have shown a miscarriage. They took it too far." Can someone explain to me how a miscarriage is any less heartbreaking than having a stillborn? For those of you that have children and respect the show - you're incredible. For those of you that it's happened to - I am so sorry for your loss. For the rest of you that think that it would have been more appropriate for Adrian to have a miscarriage - you're ridiculous. My sister just had a miscarriage and it in no way was easy for her. Losing a baby is losing a baby. It's tragic, devastating and life changing. How it happens doesn't change the outcome or how terrible that reality is. If you can't handle what happens to many women then don't watch the show...but PLEASE shut up about how they could have chosen a different way for the baby to die to make it easier for YOU to watch. Kudos ABCfamily for tackling thorny issues - Francia did incredible by the way - shes always been the
June 10th, 2011 2:10 AM
I believe it was a good and informative. They tackled an issue that is Taboo to talk about, I too lost my son and stillbirthed. Even though it is a show some teenagers connect to the show and now know its not easy dealing with these issues. I am grateful to the writters and actors, amazing job....unfortunately I cried a lil longer than usual during the episode.