The Secret Life of the American Teenager > The Secret Life of the American Teenager Review: "Or Not To Be" > Comments Page 3
To me Secret Life has always been very unrealistic. As the daughter of a teen mother the show has always kept me going though. The actors always have that monotonous ever emotion looks the same style of acting. Too many characters with equal sized story lines. Perfect lives for naughty teens. All that being said this episode was one of the most real heartbreaking the i have ever seen. I've never cried so hard from a tv show, even though i knew it was coming since i'd dvrd it and heard the new before i could watch it. Ben seemed helpless and broken. Leo seemed confused and unsure and scattered. Adrian seem heartbroken and defeated, Like she could never feel comfortable with her body again just because of what had happened. I got all that from their acting and it was marvelous. Even Amy had that feeling of it could have been me in those few minutes she knew. Maybe I'm making up the emotions i thought i saw but regardless well done Secret Life .Well Done
I think the big picture here, is that this episode really made people realize they have a connection to a fictional tv show. When everyone cried simultaneously at the end, it made viewers cry as well. For me, it was more like balling as if I had just lost my baby. It was so emotional and it was played out so well and so realistically that you had no choice but to just feel pain and empathy for ben and adrian even though they are just actors in a tv show. For 2 seconds it felt so real and so traumatizing, and that's when you know that the show is absolutely amazing!
I think it was the right thing.. it's sad .. but now they don't have to stay together and adrian and ricky can get back together and ben and amy..
its a sad situation but it's about damn time that the fantasy secret life land had some type of REAL ISSUES to deal with. In real life, teen mothers don't always have support, or homes, or boyfriends that really care about them and their baby. They need some more REAL LIFE issues that REAL LIFE teen moms deal with. Stop showing these kids glorifying images of kids having kids. It's not as cracked up as these shows are showing...
I have not seen the episode as of yet but speaking as someone who actually had a stillborn baby at 17 years old the issue is very real and although it is a rare occurence it does happen. Before this happened to me I had never even heard of a still birth it boggled my mind that my baby died inside of me and i still had to give birth. I think that it is important to show all the things that can happen with teen pregnancy and because stillbirth does not occur as often perhaps this is why people are saying that they "went too far" Like I said I never had even heard of stillbirth it is a very sensitive issue it would have been MORBID for them to show the birth with the baby coming out mute, the baby DOES NOT look as you wouldd expect it too when it was time to bury my baby it was closed casket because they told me my baby basically was decomposing so i didnt even get to say goodbye, I DID NOT hold my baby and to tell the truth i barely looked at him although I regret it deeply. This is a re
I think having Ben and Adrian lose their baby, though incredibly sad, was the right thing for the show. A show like this, one that is not afraid to be controversial what with things like the teen pregnancies and Just Say Me, should show the bad/tragic with the good. And they did. These things happen and not everyone knows that, so hopefully The Secret Life informed a few more people while entertaining them. All of the actors did a tremendous job. I liked the contrast of the two major stories/couples, Adrian/Ben and Ricky/Amy, and I liked how they came together. I wasn't expecting the Amy/Adrian scenes, but it made sense and felt right. I also wasn't expecting Ricky and Amy to have sex after, but it too made sense. Tragedy either brings people closer or tears them apart, and it's also when you need people the most.
I'm a grown woman of 40 with 2 children, but I watch this show. there's not much else on in the summer. Last night's episode had me crying my eyes out. And yes, it does happen in real life unfortunately. Bravo Secret Life, for taking on such subject matter.
I cried my eyes out for this episode!
A lot of people complain about the acting, but remember that these actors are very young and for a lot of them this is their first acting job. I think that in light of that, they're doing a terrific job and that they've made really good strides since the first episode as they become more comfortable with their characters. Also remember that they're playing teenagers, who tend to be over-dramatic as a rule of thumb. :)
I think that this show set out to explore all of the consequences, good and bad, to having sex, not just for teenagers but for others as well. Look at Amy's mom and dad, for example, as well as Ben's father and Betty. Sex is an incredibly complicated issue for people of any age, and there is no one-stop answer or guide that fits everyone. I think that this show is doing a really good job of examining those issues with an unbiased mind. All of the issues - the emotional impact, the effect your choices have on the people around
i was sad but prepared for this episode. i didn't like that Adrian's baby didn't make it because i was looking forward to see how her parenting style varied from Amy's. i understand why they did it and it's a good issue to cover since so many girls in my area get pregnant in or right out of high school.
on another note, i hope they can pick a set of characters and stick with them! jack and grant and grace and Madison and Lauren and tom and Kathleen and Robbie and the boyfriends and girlfriends and AAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! Ricky and Amy, Ben and Adrian with friends bu not entire separate story lines. i hate that they have so many going at once that you only get five minutes devoted to each section. it's like watching robot chicken for angsty teens. what ever happened to having main characters and supporting charterers. supporting charterers support, they don't run around having 1/2 the show to themselves. it's incredibly obnoxious.
I felt it overshadowed this traumatic and dramatic
I've never cried so much while watching a tv show. The secret life of the American teenager is more real Then any other show out there and I'm gald they did this because it does show what happens in the real world and I hope that the show doesn't lose it's viewers because that would be sad. So I hope everyone who has been watching well keep watching it and
I've cried so much while watching a tv show. The secret life of the American teenager is more real Then any other show out there and I'm gald they did this because it does show what happens in the real world and I hope that the show doesn't lose it's viewers because that would be sad. So I hope everyone who has been watching well keep watching it and
I am very happy to say this was the most boldest and smart move they have made. Everybody is too scared to show what happens everyday or to show kids that teen pregnancy isn't all peaches and creme. You are saying they took it too far but on every channel there are murder shows and even children die in it by the hands of a cold-hearted criminal. Yet, they show what can happen in real life and don't sugar coat anything and its wrong?! I think everyone needs to quit being scared and see what goes on around us. It is a scary world and we just live in it. I have a friend who lost a baby as a still born and she loved this episode because she was a young age and it was a huge tragedy to her. She said it shows teen pregnancy and parenthood is not glamourous. Everyone is titled to their own opinions. I just wish everyone in America would open their dang eyes and quit being so scared all the time. This does happen!!!!
I am very pleased and into the show. I am glad that ABCFAMILY took this route. I have seen a lot of people say its mean curel and wrong. Yes they are very true, but its what can happen. I have also seen that many are upset due to the fact they are only teenagers and won't understand what it means to have a still birth or sex is bad. ABCFAMILY is just showing what is real it may not seem it but it is maybe its fake the whole little crew are friends but in almost all highschools today kids are sleeping w/ the same people as everyone else. They show Amy w/ john nd what motherhood is like as a teen but now w/ the still birth its showing teens jus because your young and pregant doesn't mean nothing bad can happen to you. This is why I think its even better this happend to a teen so other teens can take in the seriousness of having a child and that this will show them have sex young is not always you get pregant and have baby or miscarry and no baby. It also show the teens nd viewer in gener
I also loved the scene where Amy comforts Adrian, it really shows how deep a mothers' love can reach even to those who do not get along.
I wasn't a fan of the secret life but this finale definitely reached out to me especially Ben and Adrian. Mostly Adrian, it was truly heartbreaking to see her in that state. I cried myself. Losing a baby is the hardest thing to ever go through but the journey to recovery will always remain.
I am glad they showed this episode. Loss of a child is something that isn't talked about nearly enough. They didn't KILL the baby every pregnancy has risks and it can happen to ANYONE at ANY age.
First of all - to those people who complain about the cheesy dialogue and unrealistic situations - I think that is all just part of what makes this show so brilliant. Secondly, regarding the subject matter of this episode and how some people are left wishing that more time was spent on the stillborn child - I think, that if the show had to go there, that they did it perfectly and tastefully. It would have been morbid to have seen the poor baby - which some of you have indicated would have made the episode better. I am the mother of a wonderfully healthy baby girl, and could only imagine how absolutely devastating it would be to carry a baby to term and then to end up losing that baby. If the writers had decided to go any further, or to show anymore, they definitely would have been going too far. I think the episode was done well. Oh yeah - To everyone who says that they only did it as a ratings ploy because only a few minutes were dedicated at the end - it was prevalent throughou
I have to say that these people can not act. But I do love this show because it shows the hardships of life. A lot of other tv series are all junk and about stupid people. Even though this was a tragic episode, in the end what matters most is FAMILY, knowing that you have each other and people who care about you is important. It was a little harsh for the screen writer to have Adrian and Ben loose their baby girl, but i do have to be honest that it is better to learn it through the media (since most people watch tv's nowadays) of certain consequences and tragic loses than to go through it yourself. I do understand that there are many women out there who have had miscarriages or other pregnancy complications. But we all need to be strong and stay together.
I'm glad the Secret Life did this episode. This show circles around teen pregnancy and parenthood, and the majority of the viewers are teenagers; and they need to see the reality of what could go wrong. Adrian was oblivious to the fact that something was wrong with the baby, as most teenage mothers would be if they were not properly educated. Putting it on TV puts it out there for the young viewers of this show and may get them to think twice before deciding to have children. I belive this is the goal of the show in general, but to cover something this tragic could be a real eye opener for some.
It was definitely a sad sad scene. I think the writers did a good job, ESPECIALLY for a show like 'secret life' that usually doesnt have the best writing in the world.
Watching as everyone slowly began to realize what was going on, the looks of horror. It was especially touching to see Bens dad so broken over the whole thing.
I agree with those who said that Ben's character will never be the same. He was always so sheltered and protected, even when dealing with everything with Amy. A situation this devastating would mess anyone up, but Ben is still so innocent and romantic, I doubt he will be able to deal with this tragedy and recover from it. At least not for a very long time.
Its like the sausage king said "Ben and Adrian will never be the same."
Lets hope that the Secret Life writers can commit to this next season and allow the characters to respond in a natural way, not just continue with the same pointless relationship switches and drama as if its business as usual.
Somehow I knew this was going to happen but not in this way. I assumed that even if Adrian was pregnant, that a miscarriage or a different approach to the pregnancy was expected somewhere along the line because to have Adrian be a mom in a similar fashion to Amy would've been too redundant. It did pack an emotional punch. Expect this to be the beginning of the end for Ben/Adrian.
I think what the writers did was just fine. If it sheds light on the fact that not all out comes are good then its educational. Kid today really need to think about thinks before they leap.
But I have to say it was a hard one to watch for me because being pregnant my self it hits home a little harder. They really should of gone into why she lost the baby. They seem to spend so much time on if this kid should or should not be having sex with this other kid, but when its a huge/sad matter like it was they just skimed over it like ya it happened but...
The moment I saw the promo commercials for this episode, I knew the baby wasn't going to make it. My teenage brother's baby recently passed, and although he was 3 months and not a stillborn child, this hit home. Seeing everyone cry in the hospital instead of being joyous that the baby arrived, gave it away that either something was terribly wrong with the infant, she miscarried, or something of the nature. The whole week of the promo commercial had me saying to myself, if they kill Adrian's baby Im never watching again. They killed Adrian's baby, but I'll still be watching. Tragedies like this happen far too often for it to be ignored. This is a show that touches on a lot of iffy subjects and I've come to support the decision of the writers. It was a very hard episode to watch, but it also makes me glad that someone is speaking up & dealing with subjects such as this.
First of all i am sorry but if you haven't watched the show from the very first season then you needto stop talking bad about this episode!!! Now for the people who have and are grieving just as much as i am i will be mourning for a very long time!!!! Even though i don't really like Adrian and Ben is ok this is a loss that effects everyone involved in the show!!!! So, back to my point of grieving the storyline like the reviewer said was very dramatic!!! It went over the edge way to much!!! And to put Amy, Ricky, Ben, Adrian etc. through another big loss is very WRONG!!!! I will still watch the show but after what the producers did i wouldn't be suprised if people did stop watching it!!! Until next time!!! P.S. And to all of you out there grieving this loss just like i am you are not the only one!! P.S.S I am also like others intersted to see how the characters deal with the loss next season!!!! (: :(
Yea the show was very interesting i cried my heart out. i felt so close to ben and adrian like a close friend. i have been watching this show since episode 1. but at the same time the writers had to do something to make more viewers wanna watch i will never stop watching this show secret life cast is my bestfriends
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