The Secret Life of the American Teenager > The Secret Life of the American Teenager Review: "Or Not To Be" > Comments Page 6
This episode was so sad. I'm not a regular user of this site, so I'm not sure who posted this blog, but I agree with that earlier comment, shame on you. This episode was hard to watch but it is reality to some women. I've had a miscarriage, just like billions of other women, but I can't even begin to think of how it would feel to have a still born. Just tragic. Yes, this may just be a show, none of this episode was real. But it HAS obviously been reality for some women. I didn't think it was inappropriate at all. It was heartbreaking, tragic, and many other things, but NOT inappropriate. And I continue to love this show.
I enjoyed this episode of secret life... even though it was super sad, I am glad that they went this route. I think that this show has been showing the side of sex as pregnancy being one of the things that could happen and Amy does a good job some how of balancing school, ricky and John, but it never touches really on the hardships of what it means to be pregnant, or a mother, or a teen mother. This situation is real and it can happen, and I thought it was good that they choose to go this way. Sex isn't something that should be taken lightly. This is just another example of why... I will keep watching.
In the United States 1 in 115 pregnanices end in a "fetal death" AKA as a stillborn.
OB/GYN resident, very tired one. I think RN85ms may have mistyped " 30 stillborns for every 100 in america". But since she stated she was an RN, I felt I should jump in. This is the number that I give my patient's every day here in SF, CA.
(@RN85ms & @gracey84)
I have to agree with some of the others that it was done well, but I am getting kind of mad at this show in regards of making sex looking like bad things happen. ie, Grace's dad & the whole Madison/Jack thing. Also this is a very grown up topic that I do not think teen's can really understand and process completely. It will be very interesting to see how they play this out in the next few epidsodes.
I think that honestly this is the best storyline this show has had since its inception.This show gets old and at times very unrealistic but this was the first time in the history of the series when we saw genuine emotion come from these characters.Many think this was a cruel thing to do to the character of Adrian but honestly it works given her arc as a character since the show started all her actions from the first episode culminated in this tragedy.The first time she did not do anything wrong having this baby not being cruel she has her child taken from her.
I understand that a lot of people are upset because a show like this showed something so traumatic as a stillborn birth, but I agree with the people who said that this had to happen. Did it need to happen? No. But, as sad as it is, it was a way to grab attentions and promote a message. Pregnancy at any age is not certain. It is not always definite. It could be here one day and gone the next. There are millions of viewers watching who now know that fact, if they didn't already know it. I imagine people of any age who were watching this episode respect the fact of still born enough to not just "sweep it under the rug". I have more faith in people than that.
It was a very good episode with some very good acting. It showed how this event could affect people, families, and small communities. I do believe in the episodes to come that this event will be brought up several times (I also read spoilers). I believe we will see how this affects both the mother and father of the stillborn child
I couldn't believe the writers decided to handle it this way. I actually know people who have been through losing a baby at the end of a pregnancy and the heartbreak is unreal... And I agree that the actors did very well in the face of the situation.
Has anyone considered what I going on with Betty? You know how Leo has not been able to get ahold of her, Amy mentioned a bad accident on the 405 (or whatever hwy it was), and Leo's assistant is suddenly a part of things and seems that she will be playing a love interest for Leo... I'm just hoping Betty is going to be ok!
I also thought the writers are writing in a possibility for the show going past the high school years by having Ricky and Adrian getting accepted to the same colleges...
For the love of all things reality! Get the fuck over the "omg it was so sad" - Its a bloody show. And a Terrible one at that!
Because of this show I'm forced by the girlfriend to watch horrible horrible horrible acting!
They should kill off the entire cast, in one huge explosion!
THIS EPISODE WAS SO SAD I COULDN'T STOP CRYING :( MY BROTHER AND SISTER IN LAW WENT THROUGH THIS JUST A FEW MONTHS AGO ..IT BROUGHT A LOT OF MEMORIES BACK ...WE LOVE AND MISS U BABY KIMBERLY BORN 11-30-10 PASSED 11-29-10
I was realllllly sad when the baby died, I bawled my eyes out. Especially when Adrian kept crying and kept repeating"but I didn't do anything wrong!" That's so horrible.. and it was so sad when all their friends came into the hospital all excited and cheerful showing support, then once they saw the look on Leo and Bens face they knew something was wrong... it was so sad. Then the In The Arms of An Angel song made it even sadder! I'm pissed that they did make her baby die, but at the same time it was a good idea.. it shows people watching it that not all pregnancies turn out as "happy endings" like Amys did.. this tragedy does happen all the time, and more teenagers need to be aware of it so they know what could possibly happen.. even though it's only a show, I'm sad.. nobody should ever have to go though that.
@gracey84 actually....maybe you should take statistics 101 before you act like you know anything about the numbers posted. seeing as i work in the field of medicine and specialize in the birthing of babies, the statistic is very much true. statistics, medically, are based off of the entire world, not just 1 country. in third world countries it is much more common due to the lack of care for pregnant women. so the numbers do go up when those countries get factored in. and for the record, there are about 30 stillborns for every 100 in america. give or take a few. so learn a little about it all before you post shit. 1 in 4 women have an std. in 4 women in your family, does one have an std? probably not. so sit down and shut up. thanks.
i think this was by far one of the best episodes ever.
it made me cry once everyone came to the hospital. i thought that Adrian losing her baby was a tragedy and it is a situation where a lot of people can relate. i LOVE the fact that Amy and Ricky decided to do it, however, i thought the timing was a little strange. but, i do agree with Amy and Ricky realizing how fortunate they are to have each other. i do not think it's the writer's fault, this show is in the category of teen, drama. drama is not a word for happy, and we have seen happy moments. therefore, i loved this episode...of course it made me sad and made me cry so much, but the actors/actresses did an OUTSTANDING job. and i appreciate the writers for taking a different approach for the storyline. best episode by far.
I AGREE!! amy and ben can NOT, I REPEAT NOTTTT BE TOGETHER. please, that's soooo disgusting! i want amy and ricky to be together for a really long time...stop messing this up! PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE! amy and ricky!
Stillbirth happens 1 out of every 115 births in this country. All births, not specifically teen births. It's about time this Issue was addressed. I think they did an excellent job, from firsthand experience. It is very a dramatic and very real thing that happens every day. The characters seem to have all responded well on the show - I hope people will learn from it as far as how to respond appropriately if/when it happens to someone they know in real life. There are idiots who blame the mother! People say oh domt worry you'll have another, or it wasnt meant to be - all totally wrong, ignorant, yet all too common, reactions. It the worst possible thing for a person, especially a woman, to have to go through.
This is was truly my favorite episode I've seen yet! It showed the reality of life. I kept watching over and over online and kept balling harder. This episode made me love the episode more. I just hope this doesn't affect the relationships. The relationship Ben and Adrian have now is special. If the writers change the relationships, I don't think I'd watch this show anymore!
This episode was was intense and a significant part of the show. I absolutely love Amy and Ricky together, but Adrain and Ben are odd together, but I don't want Ben and Amy to be together, nor do I want Adrain and Ricky to be together. I knew from the previous episode that she was probably having a miscarriage, but I was hoping for something different... like down syndrome or something. I knew that was unrealistic though. I knew she lost the baby from the previews. Then, when it happened... I did cry. It's really sad, I cannot imagine losing my future child in any way. Secret Life went over the top on this, and I will continue watching the show, like I have since the very first episode. A still birth was crazy, but adding another twist to the story was good. Unfortunatley, after getting sad, I got mad. Because I saw the preview for the next episode. Amy hugging Ben. NOOOOO! DO NOT GET TOGETHER!!!! I want Amy and Ricky. No Ben... yuck. GAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH! NEXT WEEK WON'T COME ANY FASTER!
From the moment Adrian got pregnant I felt that it was going to have to be a necessary ending that she lose the baby (although I wasn't expecting she would go this far to term). Afterall, the whole show is a campaign against teenage pregnancy and not every pregnancy- no matter the age- has a happy ending. This is important especially for younger kids to know before they plan to do anything. That being said, nothing prepared me for the grieving I felt for the characters when the moment happened. I told myself before hand that I wouldn't cry because it needed to happen for the purpose of the show and they are not real people. Then I couldn't stop crying the whole episode! I'll tell you what though, it really made me appreciate my happy, healthy 2 year old son and baby on the way (though I also confess, for the sake of my unborn baby I really wish I hadn't watched it. Just like I had to stop watching grey's anatomy and private practice when i was pregnant the first time. lol). I have a be
I agree that the actors did a great job, particularly Francia.
As a member of the teenage audience they are trying to target i was greatly affect by this episode. leos face hurt me the most. while this does happen I have never heard of it. their could have been many ways this was writen but they chose this one. this episode does noy determine whether i watch again. what matters is the attachment i have made with these characters the past three seasons. i do watch every week but it does not affect my life. i cried but it was more for the people that have gone through this same thing. i praise the show for helping show the downside to teen pregnancy with at least a dozen girls at my high school pregnant it seems the norm. this episode showed the horrors that can occur with any pregnancy and adding a teen mother in the picture made the odds worse
i honestly thought this was the best episode. The actors did an amazing job!!! They don't have to sugar coat anything. They are truly sending a message to young adults that these horrible tragedies could happen to anyone. In a way it is a good way to scare the hell out of teens. Teens are more at risk to miscarry or have a stillbirth because their bodies are still growing themselves! this episode was amazing and i am glad they touched this subject.
I think it was sad that the baby died but I can't say I'm surprised it happen because do you really think that the writers were going to let two teenagers have a baby in the hospital. I just hope that it doesn't interfere with the current couples adrian & ben and ricky & amy.
As someone who has not followed this show or its reviews for long, I have to say it is pretty appalling that "Jessica" would choose to use the words she did when attacking the writer of this article who has written wonderful reviews for multiple shows and clearly is hired to publish her opinions. The show's storyline is what is controversial and if it brought up painful memories for you, Jessica, then maybe you should talk to a professional about the anger and rage that is evidently still being harbored in relation to your loss. Instead of attacking someone who is doing their job and maybe it is good Leigh stirred up some conversation and debate among readers- but you need to take it down a knotch with the "shame on you" self-righteous talk, you have no idea what she has been through, you have no idea that she helped deliver her 6th nephew and was the only one allowed in the delivery room and helped save his life when he came out almost deprived completely of oxygen. Watch your tone th
I know that stillbirths do happen however given the character and background of Adrian's character I honestly think that they should have had Adrian get an abortion. I hate the way Secret Life paints a pretty picture of teen pregnancy. Amy for instance, the only bad thing that happened to her was she got behind in a couple of classes... No... the reality of it is...MOST moms don't have jobs, they aren't lucky enough for a "church" to just hand them a paying job at a nursery with no prior experience, NOR are they lucky enough to have Mom's boyfriend give them a BRAND NEW CAR! I was hoping they would make Adrian's pregnancy a little more realistic, instead Ben's rich dad paid for everything, didn't show any of the ridicule people get for teen pregnancy, or the financial struggles, the worry... normal people can't afford babies and teen moms rely on support from parents who can barely support themselves. I HATE the unrealistic picture of teen pregnancy and parenthood that this paints. I a
From the moment that Adrian found out that she was pregnant, I saw this coming. She was either going to have a miscarriage or a stillborn. Think about it! If she had gotten pregnant, whether she was married or not, it would just be Amy all over again! The storyline would have been too repetitive and THAT would have made the show lose viewers, in my opinion.
With Adrian losing the baby, it gives the audience a clearer view of what pregnancy is really like. It's not always a happy ending, teenage pregnancy. Or any pregnancy, really. People deal with this everyday.It's reality, unfortunately. People do lose their babies.
Honestly, I am glad that the writers decided to go this direction. It just opens up many pathways for the storyline. I can honestly say that I am excited for the next episode.
@Jessica We have never met so you would actually have zero idea what i have and have not experienced in my personal life and whether or not a miscarriage or pregnancy has been a part of that. I am simply a writer, asked to give an objective review of a television show. ABC Family has spent weeks promoting this episode and the scene was maybe 10 minutes tops and will be swept under the rug by next week. If you have an issue with something, take it up with a network that used a terrible misfortune as a ratings ploy. Because in my PERSONAL opinion this was a cheap ploy to grab viewers and THAT is what should be reprimanded. Life is not rainbows and "lollipops" but perhaps such a serious storyline should've been saved for a show that could have given it the proper attention that it so deserves. And to all the families out there that have experienced this or something like this, my heart truly does go out to you, because nobody should ever have to go through that.
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